I view the IC/OOC boundary as being a very simple and very clear divide for me. This is a character who I am playing to match their own distinct personality. Are there parts of me in this character? Yes because I can't play something I don't understand but that being said I am not that character. I had a lot of issues in SWTOR with people feeling that I was my character and it caused a lot of problems that have made me a little gunshy about RPing. That being said, I view the character as the character. You are not your character and I am not going to assume such. Just because the characters are friends does not mean you are my friend OOC and we're all buddy buddy. That's just not how it works.
I don't mind OOC communication but traditionally that communication stays about the characters and their interactions. If a friendship forms, okay, but when that happens the lines are clearly drawn especially if the other person is a male. I've encountered too many people who live through their characters and it bleeds into OOC conversations and feelings.(This tends to be more with RP relationships than just character friendships and/or business relationships but the same applies for all instances) I make it very well known that I am in a serious relationship so if I see something I deem to be a mixing of OOC, it is brought up with a clear warning of "No. This is not appropriate and this will not happen." If I end up with someone who causes me more stress than my day to day life or who I start avoiding like the plague because of something they are doing, something has to be said about it. You don't have to be rude about the warning but it needs to be clear and direct. No beating around the bush or hinting because that causes issues of its own. If I see it a second time, I end the contact. I won't risk my relationship or my sanity over RP. I've had to learn to be very strict about this particular thing. I know it's kind of harsh and a lot of people don't agree with it but in my experience being nice about it or trying to just push it to the side doesn't work. It only gets worse with time until you end up with a much bigger mess than it ever should have been.
I don't mind OOC communication but traditionally that communication stays about the characters and their interactions. If a friendship forms, okay, but when that happens the lines are clearly drawn especially if the other person is a male. I've encountered too many people who live through their characters and it bleeds into OOC conversations and feelings.(This tends to be more with RP relationships than just character friendships and/or business relationships but the same applies for all instances) I make it very well known that I am in a serious relationship so if I see something I deem to be a mixing of OOC, it is brought up with a clear warning of "No. This is not appropriate and this will not happen." If I end up with someone who causes me more stress than my day to day life or who I start avoiding like the plague because of something they are doing, something has to be said about it. You don't have to be rude about the warning but it needs to be clear and direct. No beating around the bush or hinting because that causes issues of its own. If I see it a second time, I end the contact. I won't risk my relationship or my sanity over RP. I've had to learn to be very strict about this particular thing. I know it's kind of harsh and a lot of people don't agree with it but in my experience being nice about it or trying to just push it to the side doesn't work. It only gets worse with time until you end up with a much bigger mess than it ever should have been.
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Adelina Lee
(Balmung Server)