It's a pickle, but as everyone has already said, you both should talk.
As someone who is also ICly married (and OOCly in a relationship with the same person) I can understand certain boundaries, however they are easily solved. For example, me and my partner trust each other enough that we don't need to RP with each other 24/7, and just like our characters they won't flirt with other people and reject being flirted with, but that's our decision.
As someone who is also ICly married (and OOCly in a relationship with the same person) I can understand certain boundaries, however they are easily solved. For example, me and my partner trust each other enough that we don't need to RP with each other 24/7, and just like our characters they won't flirt with other people and reject being flirted with, but that's our decision.