I think the problem comes where your hard work doesn't look like my hard work.
I'm disabled and find the game difficult anyway, so what probably looks like "lazy" to a lot of you is actually "me trying my hardest and still falling short".
Like, I know in principle that positionals are important, or rotating cooldowns is important, or balancing Cleric Stance is important. But actually doing that is a totally different matter. I suck at it. I try, and I try, and I practice, and I take casual content as a learning opportunity, and I ask my FC for learning runs, and I practice some more, and I try, and I still suck. I always have, through 10 years of WoW and now 6 months of FFXIV.
Because I'm disabled, yo. That's kind of what the word means. I try as much as anyone else and get less results.
I don't think that means I should be banned from ever using the roulette feature. No one's wiping and my dungeon runs typically don't go over 30 minutes (which is the max time SE expects you to reasonably spend on a dungeon roulette). I'm not joining people's EX primal farm parties or what have you where a rapid clear time can make the difference between a successful farm and a failed one. And I'm still doing my best whenever I enter a dungeon, even if "my best" looks different on that day than it did yesterday (because disabled, yo).
I even get comms sometimes! A lot of the time, actually!
Which is why I don't think it's as black and white as "healers who Cleric Stance are doing their job, healers who don't are bad and lazy".
I also don't think "ever mentioning Cleric Stance in the presence of a healer who isn't already using it is bad and and mean".
I think there should be a little more consideration that other people are different people with different skills and backgrounds and that they're, y'know, allowed to play the game too; and they don't really deserve to be berated for it, especially if they're still bringing the right attitude (willing to learn and/or adapt, trying their hardest, wanting to cooperate with the group to complete the run in a reasonable time).
Ironically, that last paragraph is kind of what I was trying to say to OP, too. xD
I'm disabled and find the game difficult anyway, so what probably looks like "lazy" to a lot of you is actually "me trying my hardest and still falling short".
Like, I know in principle that positionals are important, or rotating cooldowns is important, or balancing Cleric Stance is important. But actually doing that is a totally different matter. I suck at it. I try, and I try, and I practice, and I take casual content as a learning opportunity, and I ask my FC for learning runs, and I practice some more, and I try, and I still suck. I always have, through 10 years of WoW and now 6 months of FFXIV.
Because I'm disabled, yo. That's kind of what the word means. I try as much as anyone else and get less results.
I don't think that means I should be banned from ever using the roulette feature. No one's wiping and my dungeon runs typically don't go over 30 minutes (which is the max time SE expects you to reasonably spend on a dungeon roulette). I'm not joining people's EX primal farm parties or what have you where a rapid clear time can make the difference between a successful farm and a failed one. And I'm still doing my best whenever I enter a dungeon, even if "my best" looks different on that day than it did yesterday (because disabled, yo).
I even get comms sometimes! A lot of the time, actually!
Which is why I don't think it's as black and white as "healers who Cleric Stance are doing their job, healers who don't are bad and lazy".
I also don't think "ever mentioning Cleric Stance in the presence of a healer who isn't already using it is bad and and mean".
I think there should be a little more consideration that other people are different people with different skills and backgrounds and that they're, y'know, allowed to play the game too; and they don't really deserve to be berated for it, especially if they're still bringing the right attitude (willing to learn and/or adapt, trying their hardest, wanting to cooperate with the group to complete the run in a reasonable time).
Ironically, that last paragraph is kind of what I was trying to say to OP, too. xD