Hydaelyn Role-Players

(03-31-2015, 12:42 AM)Tiergan Wrote: [ -> ]That said -- I think what Ilwe'ran was trying to dispel the notion that older members have all the keys to the castle in terms of unlocking RP with the rest of the community. Especially since just being in the community for a while may not be a guarantee that they're in a much better place than the new guy/gal is if they just happen to be one of those shy, struggling-to-find-RP older members. Both old and new RPers should be hunting down RP with both old and new RPers.

I forgot to answer to this, but yes, that's what I meant.
It's not because you're there since long that you have a lot of RP and the term "community" itself always sounded wrong to me. We can be considered as a community as we are all there for the same thing : RPing, but at the same time, we're all so different from each others that we cannot consider us as some sort of homogeneous group.
The RP community on Balmung is for me really diverse and more like.. Some small groups next to each others, included in bigger groups (like LS / Plots including a few groups of people / FC) but nothing much like a big community with the same goal.
That's why every time I read someone saying it's hard to join the RP community, I shake a bit my head and I just think "You just didn't find the right small group which fit to your sort of RP" .
To me, it's not like meeting even one of those veteran will ever change a thing to your situation, you will only meet some other people aside who fit the RP of that person, it's not like meeting someone who has the key of the community as a whole, but more someone who already found their group(s) where they are comfortable to RP with.

I just think that the first work you have to do is to know more of yourself, what you like, how you like it and how your character is. This can seem weird, I mean.. This can seem obvious, but how many of you really know what sort of RP they like and they want when they create their character in a new place and in a new community ? We all change with time and sometimes we discover that the people we first talked to and had some RP with aren't those fitting the most to what we really prefer.
So, before nudging some groups, I think best is to do a small introspection to know exactly what you're seeking for and to accept that those you will meet will not be the same sort of RPer as you are or won't have the time to add you to their circle.

Because, here is the thing : You cannot RP with 150 people. As for IRL, you can only have a few partners, a small group with who you will go in deep with your character and thus having this one growing up. I mean.. You can have a lot of buddies, people you meet once in a while for one or other thing (can be tavern buddies, work buddies, etc.) lets say "buddies with who you will share one facet of your character" but you will only have a few people really knowing about your character and probably one RP partner who will be by your side enough to know your character weakness and such things (those things your character usually don't share).

Knowing that, you can easily understand and accept better why some "groups" are closed and some others more open. You can also understand why you can be closer to some people than others and why you will sometimes only be a buddy and sometimes be something more.
What is important is to find the right people having the same vision of the RP and some similar schedule, those people probably know some more people like you if they are there since long enough and seek for some, etc. That's how you enter in a circle which fit you and not that vast idea of a "community" that I don't share at all, because of what I just explained.