Hydaelyn Role-Players

Hey so I have some concerns going on, idk what is going on, but I've been getting flat out ignored for several weeks now when I read someone's search info and it says "Walkups welcome" and even though it says they're not afk and they look at me, they never respond and I just make an edit to my post and resend it in the event the game nommed it. Well it's been happening a lot lately, and it's starting to make me discouraged that maybe RP isn't really welcoming for me anymore.

I would sometimes go up to people and make a simple post to kinda do a greeting, you know something friendly. I wouldn't have anything like ERP in my search info, or be wearing anything that looked like i was looking for it, and yet after 5 minutes of waiting AFTER THE PEOPLE HAVE LOOKED AT ME AND THEN UNTARGETED, I walk off and I get a /tell (About 60% of the time) going "Oh I saw your post, I'm sorry if I looked like I was ignoring you, I wasn't" which is complete crap, they were and the fact they would make a post for that and not go "Oh I'm not really wanting to RP, sorry" makes me want to throw up.

It's gotten to the point I kept count yesterday at the grindstone, I got ignored by 13 different people, even making sure I asked if my messages went through or if they got eaten. Never got a message, not even got an acknowledgement until AFTER I had left. I'm going to give RP one more try, if it continues, I might just give up and move onto something else, because I take the time to always make sure I at least reply to someone and RP with them briefly or tell them I'm not really up for it.

Has anyone else been having this problem?

Generally, I've found the search info thing to be a hoax. It's a bad indicator of whether someone is looking for random/walk-up RP or not. (Not to mention how weird it is to have to actually look it up). Either walk up or move on. Or send a /tell if concerned.

But there's also a large portion of people who also just simply like to use the public places for private RP or to idle. Short of actively approaching or sending a tell, you'll never know who's who. And there probably isn't a whole lot you can do on your side if you're putting in the effort to meet people.

Personally, I fall into that "I like to coordinate my RP" group. I don't do walk-ups well because I tend to not be looking at the screen or might be otherwise busy. But that also means I go long periods of not RPing because I'm not in the mood to do so or I don't reach out. (Which means it's my fault if I want RP and don't help make it happen).

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As an aside, the Grindstone is probably one of the more difficult places to get into a group of people's RP, given its very large crowds recently. I'm probably not alone in saying the chatlog scroll is so fast that even when the log window takes up 1/4 of my screen, it's extremely easy to miss a post. And if someone isn't looking out for your text in particular, it's like tossing a needle into a haystack. Sure, someone might jump on it and get pricked, but chances are, looking at it, nobody's going to notice unless they're already looking for it.

I'd recommend a little coordination with people. The RPC isn't the only resource out there! Tumblr has some, and there's also a portion of RPers who don't use anything but the game! (I have no idea how they accomplish such feats).

Hi there,

Where are you trying to find rp? If you're doing it mostly during events, I think it's unexpectedly the most difficult setting to meet people, as most of the time rpers are already in groups or know each other, and as Mercenary said, texts are going so fast than even when you try to focus only on your friends' text you're still missing bit of sentences sometimes.

I'd rather advise you to post a thread in "making connections" to introduce part of your character concept and ask if people are interested to set up a meeting. I did it when I arrived as a newbie on Balmung and met awesome people I'm very thankful to know now! 

You can also wander in the quicksands, there's always someone looking for new rps.
And if you've already done all of this then perhaps there's another problem or you've really been unlucky. Sometimes people are just busy doing something else, or chatting in /tell or /party or afk and miss your post. Sometimes it gets eaten too. Be patient and do not hesitate to ask people why they ignore you if you really think they do. I'm part of the people targetting random rper to read their description 'cause I'm like super-curious, and based on that I get an idea whether the player would be interested with my character or not, so maybe it's what some people did?

Usually I like meeting new rper so, do not hesitate to poke me ig if you want to meet (unless you're an au'ra, 'cause my character will just snob you, and that's not what you actually need xD).

Holiday busyness has kept me away for a week or so, but I should be in-game again regularly starting tomorrow, so if you want to meet a few people I can introduce you to the group of friends that I RP with. Shoot me a PM on here with your character names so that I can reach out to you.

It happens a lot in places that are crowded, the scrolling text makes things hard to pick out and half the folks are RPing in party chat.

I'd suggest Linkshells aimed at connections and places that FCs run for RP. Here you can find smaller RP to suit yourself.

When i do walk ups I find they don't respond or if they do it is very flat. What I look for is others that will adding to the RP.

Keep at it, and try alternative routes if the ones you had are not working.

The runestone/grindstone I can understand, but during dead times in the Quicksand? I mean yeah I definitely understand with the flying text, but I always make sure that I can manage to talk to someone that strayed a little bit away from the main group to prevent that. I can't name names, but I'm sure others relate to this kind of frustration.

I think many can relate to it. ...but at the same time, it's also a very common issue both in game IC, in-game OOC, and in the real world. There's no magic fix-it solution and what works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another. :/

If you're walking away after 5 minutes, then it's quite possible that you're not giving the other person enough time to respond. Especially in those cases when you get a follow-up tell saying, "I wasn't ignoring you," it's quite possible that the other person was in the midst of writing their post when you left. I'm a para RPer and it can easily take me longer than 5 minutes to write a post. 

Another good idea is to always open with an OOC /tell to make sure the person is (a) not afk and (b) currently in character and looking for RP. I idle in public places sometimes while I tab in and out of the game, and I know it's a common practice.

The suggestion to look for RP on the "Making Connections" forum is a good one. Scheduled RP is often richer than walk-up RP anyway.

(01-03-2016, 07:58 PM)Solenne Wrote: [ -> ]If you're walking away after 5 minutes, then it's quite possible that you're not giving the other person enough time to respond. Especially in those cases when you get a follow-up tell saying, "I wasn't ignoring you," it's quite possible that the other person was in the midst of writing their post when you left. I'm a para RPer and it can easily take me longer than 5 minutes to write a post. 

Another good idea is to always open with an OOC /tell to make sure the person is (a) not afk and (b) currently in character and looking for RP. I idle in public places sometimes while I tab in and out of the game, and I know it's a common practice.

The suggestion to look for RP on the "Making Connections" forum is a good one. Scheduled RP is often richer than walk-up RP anyway.

I have timed myself typing and I'm typically the slowest one when it comes to my computer technology class. Typing out a full response for all characters for me takes a little less than a minute and a half, saying you can't at the very least put out a half assed response in under five minutes is absolutely bogus.

This is... slightly unrelated, but a word of advice. If the game does eat your emote, simply resending it won't do the trick - even in different channels. Once that particular block of text is sucked into the void, it can never again be given life by you. You will have to re-type it, and I would strongly recommend using completely different wording as to prevent it from happening again.

(01-03-2016, 07:59 PM)Melphina Wrote: [ -> ]I have timed myself typing and I'm typically the slowest one when it comes to my computer technology class. Typing out a full response for all characters for me takes a little less than a minute and a half, saying you can't at the very least put out a half assed response in under five minutes is absolutely bogus.

Careful. Some people are really slow typers, and even then how slow they are depends on how much text and detail they are putting into their emotes. Some people even proof-read their stuff, which is a fucking trial with the in-game chat system. Be patient.

That being said, I would be glad to approach you at some point, though I must confess I do not know your in-game name at all.

You've been given good advice here.

I also agree that 5 minutes is pretty short. I work on computers for a living and can type fairly quickly! RP, on the other hand, takes me around 2-4 minutes for a reply most times (I know this because timestamps). If it's a very detailed response, if I have some sort of background distraction, if I'm tired, etc. it can take even longer.

I always welcome people sending a /tell: ((Hey! Can I join in?)) ((Are you free to RP?)) Hell, even just ((hi)) will get my attention. Even if you don't see a bunch of chat scroll, the other person might be having an in-depth conversation on their end in another channel.

(01-03-2016, 07:59 PM)Melphina Wrote: [ -> ]

(01-03-2016, 07:58 PM)Solenne Wrote: [ -> ]If you're walking away after 5 minutes, then it's quite possible that you're not giving the other person enough time to respond. Especially in those cases when you get a follow-up tell saying, "I wasn't ignoring you," it's quite possible that the other person was in the midst of writing their post when you left. I'm a para RPer and it can easily take me longer than 5 minutes to write a post. 

Another good idea is to always open with an OOC /tell to make sure the person is (a) not afk and (b) currently in character and looking for RP. I idle in public places sometimes while I tab in and out of the game, and I know it's a common practice.

The suggestion to look for RP on the "Making Connections" forum is a good one. Scheduled RP is often richer than walk-up RP anyway.

I have timed myself typing and I'm typically the slowest one when it comes to my computer technology class. Typing out a full response for all characters for me takes a little less than a minute and a half, saying you can't at the very least put out a half assed response in under five minutes is absolutely bogus.

I have no intention of putting out a half-assed response, though. I often take my time over my posts because I care about the quality of my writing and because I respect my RP partners enough to put in real effort. This kind of attitude is unlikely to win you RP partners.

Howdy! So, I'm going to echo a few people here.

1.) Look at making a post within the connection section. 

2.) Make a wiki, or as I call them a character sheet. 

3.) Look for an FC, and make sure they are a good fit for you. 

I've been in this boat for a good four weeks my friend, and I cannot express how important it is for you not to get discouraged. There are decent role-players out there, and if you keep on looking you'll find it or in some cases they will find you. 

Now, I know this might sound strange and all. But, I'd suggest try scheduling oocly with another role-player. You know, even if it requires you to wait you could use that time to enjoy the content within the game, fresh out your character some, or make a glamour.

I'm not going to bore you, or clutter your screen with text on this subject.  But, don't let someone or a group lead you on.  If they express interest be here,  in-game, or wherever it may be and you make the effort to reach back out to them and they blow you off or come up with some reason why they cannot RP with you after a few attempts (The amount is up to you.)  MOVE ON.  Cause if you wait around, you are going to find yourself getting burnt out, or worst discouraged.

While 5 minutes may be short for people who like to write long thorough posts, I think it's far too long to go without acknowledging that you received a post at all, especially in the context of walk up roleplay where people need to know if they need to move along and keep looking.

As someone who typically takes 5-10 minutes between replies unless I'm beaten in the head by magic silver spoons or something, if I'm in the process of typing a response, I don't usually drop what I'm doing, copy the block out (and pray that it stays in the clipboard), respond with a quick reply, and then try to regain my thought for a post from there. It completely disrupts what's already a fickle process at times. (Edda can vouch for me when I say I made her wait 30+ minutes for a reply once. And it gave her enough time to rearrange her FC room on top of me).

If I get a ((hey, are you still typing, or did it get eaten)) post, I will sometimes drop what I'm doing to respond to it, but I don't consider it the norm.