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RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - Verad - 04-22-2015

Mrs. Spahro Mrs. Spahro I have a question:
What do you do if you're a player with anxiety issues? How do you manage those problems on your quest to be popular?

RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - GloryRhodes - 04-23-2015

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Great question!  There are a ton of resources here on the RPC for finding linkshells, which can help a lot in finding people to RP with, but that's easy mode!  Let's talk about events instead!  Many FCs hold weekly or monthly events, which provide opportunities to meet new people in a situation with a ton of new people!

Many events serve a double role as recruiting opportunities, and there's usually someone there on the lookout for new people to help integrate into the group.  If you're of a more fighting mindset you can check out The Grindstone, or other combat events.  Even if you're not a fighter, cheering for your favorite contestant can often lead to some great interaction with the others in the crowd.

Remember, you don't always have to approach groups or individuals, and attending open events is a great way to get noticed in a setting where new blood is always welcome.

If even this is a bit too much for you, bring in a friend from outside the game, or maybe ask someone OOC for help if they seem nice and knowledgeable.  Unfortunately, meeting new people requires talking to them, so there's no real way to avoid that, unless someone were to start an Eorzean speed dating RP service.  Hey, maybe that person could be you!  I'd attend that event!


RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - Mikh'a - 04-23-2015

This is a great thread, like super great. ( Of course it's great, it's full of Mean Girls gifs. ) It has a lot of helpful advice that I think a lot of people should look at, especially the 'be social' element. RP doesn't come to you - if it did you got lucky. You need to find it, and put yourself out there. Someone gave me some great advice on that recently. ( Just don't overwhelm yourself either. )

RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - Unnamed Mercenary - 04-23-2015

*raises hand* "But what if I've done all that and people still don't RP with me?"

RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - Domri Blackblade - 04-23-2015

(04-23-2015, 12:37 AM)Unnamed Mercenary Wrote: *raises hand* "But what if I've done all that and people still don't RP with me?"

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RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - GloryRhodes - 04-23-2015

(04-23-2015, 12:37 AM)Unnamed Mercenary Wrote: *raises hand* "But what if I've done all that and people still don't RP with me?"

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Sometimes there are gonna be some groups that you just can't get into.  Either your character concept doesn't fit in or their schedule is just too full to spend much time helping out new people at the moment.  There's nothing wrong with that, and there's nothing wrong with you either.  Just let that experience go.  Continuing to try to get into a group that isn't immediately welcoming can sour your moods on each other pretty quick, so sometimes it's best to move on and keep trying somewhere else.

Don't worry.  You can, and will, find RP that's right for you.  There are so many RPers with so many different styles that there is a place for everyone.  If you follow the steps from the guide on the first page then you will end up with friends who can appreciate you as much as you deserve, and you do deserve it!

Remember, you're great, and just because not everyone sees it doesn't mean nobody does.


RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - ChewableMorphine - 04-23-2015

I gotta say Heathers is my preferred movie of the bunch Cool

And thank you docta Spahro, you's be's a pretty cool fella.

And remember kids, RP in Balmung is essentially this:


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So being popular is really not that hard!

RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - industrythirteen - 04-23-2015

Yeah, I will always dig a Heathers reference. I always fall asleep though when I mean to finally finish watching it. I'M SORRY! x.x

However, great guide. I like that the highlight is on entertaining others, because, really, that's been my experience as well. In TOR, I made it a point to be entertaining to others. While in-character, other characters often disliked my character or were extremely leery of her (with good reason) without fail I was told out-of-character people had a great time, and I made them laugh. 

Thank you for the emphasis on a more selfless approach to generating RP opportunities for oneself and others.

RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - Cliodhna Eoghan - 04-23-2015

(04-23-2015, 01:03 AM)☆Flynt Reddard☆ Wrote: I gotta say Heathers is my preferred movie of the bunch Cool

And thank you docta Spahro, you's be's a pretty cool fella.

And remember kids, RP in Balmung is essentially this:


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So being popular is really not that hard!

ooommmgggg flynt. you posting that made me think of this!



RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - Rosamund - 04-23-2015

Haha that was a fun read. Thank you for writing this, Spahro!

(04-23-2015, 03:36 AM)Cliodhna Eoghan Wrote: ooommmgggg flynt. you posting that made me think of this!

Yesss, Dead Alewives! I attack the DARKNESS! Big Grin

RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - Nebbs - 04-23-2015

(04-22-2015, 06:43 PM)GloryRhodes Wrote: ...
RP is not just about being entertained guys, it's about entertaining!
...

This^

RP for others, listen to them, get them to talk, help them progress their story, provide some incentives, adapt to them, bustle them along.. etc,..

Do that and you get paid back tenfold!

Plant some RP seeds today..

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RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - SicketySix - 04-23-2015

I dunno, I do almost the polar opposite and I'm quite popularCool
(outside the game world)

RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - DoomsdayClock - 04-23-2015

(04-23-2015, 12:37 AM)Unnamed Mercenary Wrote: *raises hand* "But what if I've done all that and people still don't RP with me?"

Because no one ever rps with Franz...

RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - SicketySix - 04-23-2015

(04-22-2015, 06:43 PM)GloryRhodes Wrote: And we've got an obligation to make sure that every single one of the disenfranchised RPers has as good a time as us more popular types do!
Uhhh no, no we do not lol.

I refuse to believe I'm responsible to mend all the hurt feelings that seem to be going around

RE: Spahro's Guide to Being Popular - g0ne - 04-23-2015

(04-23-2015, 12:37 AM)Unnamed Mercenary Wrote: *raises hand* "But what if I've done all that and people still don't RP with me?"

I RP with you, Franz. Do I not count? :<