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RE: Lets talk romance! - Roen - 09-05-2015

I am a sucker for romance. It increases my investment in any story if there is a possibility of a romantic attachment between characters. I will confess that I am a compulsive shipper when it comes to any stories I really enjoy.

That being said, I don't necessarily enjoy stories that are only and PURELY about the romance since that gets boring for me. I am not a fan of romance novels, for example.

And my love of romance doesn't always translate to my RP. Roen was without any kind of romantic attachment for almost a year. I was having plenty of fun RPing without it as it was. But the injection of romance into any story can add a wonderful dimension for both storytelling and character development, so when it did happen, it was fraught with plenty of tension and conflict, and for Roen, it eventually ended in a tragedy.

I like romances that are complicated. Chemistry has to be there between the characters, and the growth of the relationship has to believable, but for a romance to hold any interest for me, it has to have layers of complexity, whether it be differences in philosophy, personality, or circumstances... and if there are obstacles to be overcome. As others have already stated, characters AND relationships grow when they face and overcome adversities together.

But if Roen's story is an example of anything, it's that my love for romance does not always translate to happy endings... >__>

RE: Lets talk romance! - Sylentmana - 09-08-2015

I've only dated one person for a grand total of 2 whole weeks in my entire life. That lack of experience has translated into my RP so pretty much none of my characters are involved in romance.

RE: Lets talk romance! - Warren Castille - 09-08-2015

Romance good. I'm partial to the slow-burn type of storytelling myself: While there's something to be said about sudden passionate embraces, it's more satisfying to me to make sure things work, and to go through all the growing pains that help make up the bonds that tie characters together. I've heard of too many people suddenly slamming together to get Bonded in game, and then splitting up weeks (or days) later. Then again, it just makes me appreciate what I've got that much more.

RE: Lets talk romance! - Ignacius - 09-08-2015

It depends.  Romance has to be organic in some way.  If you're looking for it, it becomes detrimental to the character.  IRL, I'm married, so I've been VERY reluctant to get back into RP romance.  Too many females playing female characters have experienced a bit too much bleed, and taken it personally when I haven't reciprocated the IRL feelings.

However, there's an organic way to do this; make a character that isn't very lovable.  The past two games I've RPed in, I've played Houngan Seeger and now Orleans Ignacius.  Seeger was something of a weird, sociopathic voodoo-heavy witch doctor.  Horrible mercenary character.  Orleans is somewhat similar.  Paranoid, sociopathic, a criminal and a mastermind.  In RP, you can essentially make someone difficult to romantically connect to.

Taking Orleans specifically, he literally does not trust anyone that isn't a tribesman, and even his tribesmen look up to him.  Most women who would be interested in him want nothing to do with a man who looks around every time he leaves a building.  Those that would be interested in him despite that are looking up at someone in a position of authority and leadership who sees his people as employees and, at best, charges.  Like an alpha wolf, he doesn't see equals around him.

Most people avoid him, though, and he hasn't really been flirted with yet.  He has too much authority in the way he speaks for people to really relate to him in a personal way.  People looking for an interpersonal connection aren't getting it unless they're tribesmen, and so far the tribesmen aren't really romantically involved.

And a bit of that is intentional.  Being in a romantic IC relationship always carries that risk of OOC bleed, and there comes a point where you just don't want to deal with it.

RE: Lets talk romance! - Artigan - 09-08-2015

Romance is nice when their is drama between the couple, as a "perfect" relationship is rather dull for story, character development, and plot hooks.

Then again some players enjoy the niceties, but I like my drama hot, spicy, and sultry; with just a dash of forever-ever baby.

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RE: Lets talk romance! - ZacharyVolfire - 09-08-2015

"I dont need to say anyhting this gu is mine."
"But hes not evne agreeing with you." 
"He doesnt need to he knows better."
Guy sighs and nods.
"So your dating?"
"no he's just mine."

I forgot where i read this but this short woman was talking about her tall significant other.and i found it adorable how she was just claiming him. No explantion no title just 'Mine'

RE: Lets talk romance! - Eses Fafa - 09-08-2015

Hmm, I'm pretty good with most relationship RP as long as they're compatible on an OOC level rather than IC. Like both have to agree that it's not perfect and there may be conflicts.
Also if you RP a lot of factors reasonably, and if it's genuinely fun, then by all means. Like as a lecherous character, I wind up black-screening whenever this when gets her freak on, but the rest like getting all huggy and stuff, pestering the IC waifu, diverting from the love to get serious, 's'all good if it's there and it works!
I remember someone who treated their IC relationship OOCly and had a fit when their characters had an argument. I still question that person's grip on reality.

RE: Lets talk romance! - Caspar - 09-09-2015

There's a bit I could write on this, but it's rather hard on my phone. But in general it's not something I actively seek out, yet I always end up getting dragged into it, and my story usually is richer as a result. I think I enjoy a classic, slow, troubled progression and the tragic end a bit too much for some peoples' tastes, but I also feel writing romance is not one of my specialties. I worry that I'm being too slow, not obvious enough, or not sentimental enough. It's worked out fine in the past, but I get the nagging suspicion Every once in a while that I could have done a scene more subtle or stay in character more.

I do not ship, but I find shippers entertaining, so I like to give them fuel and keep them in suspense. If there had to be a kind of pairing I enjoy, it is usually people who are opposites, or are destined to oppose one another due to their beliefs. A normal, healthy relationship in rp isn't usually enough to retain my interest, and I also cannot abide the characters who are defined by their home life and have no goals outside of their romance.

I'm wary of ooc blend in romance rp because I've experienced that a few times.

RE: Lets talk romance! - Oli! - 09-09-2015

(09-08-2015, 03:07 PM)Ignacius Wrote: However, there's an organic way to do this; make a character that isn't very lovable.


I like to do this thing. Making romantically-untouchable characters seems to do the trick.

Adalhaid is trying to be chaste for the sake of focusing on monkhood, so anyone that she isn't head over heels for (which is everyone) gets an automatic No. They'd also have to be very punchy for her to even think about it in the first place.

My Roegadyn is an angry, horrible, insufferable person that no one without a boatload of their own problems would want to love anyway.

Oliwat is a huffy, condescending, intolerant old-wizard asshole on a bad day. Interestingly, he's being taken on by an even bigger asshole.

RE: Lets talk romance! - Cato - 09-09-2015

I'm a big fan of exploring the romantic and passionate side of my characters. I favour the 'slow and steady' approach since it feels a lot more realistic to me and filters out those who are only in it for the sake of getting ERP as quickly as possible. I care about my character and don't feel like throwing character development out the window just for someone else to get off at his expense.

With that said...trust is a major part of it for me as well. I won't ever pair my character with someone else's unless I feel like I know the other role-player well enough to trust and understand them. This is due to a combination of bad experiences in the past and the fact that some role-players are, unfortunately, absolutely bonkers...and not in a good way.

Whilst I'm big on pure romance and passion in the real world when it comes to my characters I prefer to see a decent amount of conflict and drama. It just feels more realistic, raw and gritty - allowing for more themes to be explored instead of having everything work out like a fairy tale romance.

RE: Lets talk romance! - Shadottie - 09-09-2015

If it comes naturally and develops in RP, that's totally awesome and worthwhile, but not a driving point to my RP play style. I am shipping trash and absolutely love seeing that sort of thing crop up out of plots, hardships, and whatever sort of developments happen for characters, even if they aren't mine! 

The kind of romantic thing I'm a sucker for in RP/stories is when you have that super grumpy, cold person and someone desu-gentle trying their best to understand and be there for that person. Alas, they butt heads are always at odds, and there's a point where like... something happens and the butthead, grumpy person acts selflessly for the other, and.. things just kinda pick up from there.  It's super precious for that loner-anti-hero whatever type to feel something and compelled to help others, and develop awl the feels from there.  Good stuff.

RE: Lets talk romance! - Mentaza - 09-09-2015

For me, I'm not going to enter an IC relationship unless I've spent some time talking OOC with the person behind the character and know things aren't going to get weird. I'm in a happy long term relationship and have only had 2 IC relationships.in games. Neither one was super hot and heavy, but more cute and fun, which I find much more enjoyable.

I'll take light hearted, friends become awkward and flirty and fool around but still have adventures and other fun hijinks any day over heavy romance.

RE: Lets talk romance! - Lost River - 09-09-2015

I love romance and relationships in game; as an OOC standpoint they can flesh out the character more so. But also comes the dangers of attaching your actual emotion to the interaction; that is a give with anyone in the craft, either role-playing at a table, on a game, or on stage/TV/movie; you put a little bit of yourself into the character. I understand the dangers, but if the two are consent sane adults and do this correctly, it is quite fun to do.


If not, its quite dangerous to do.

RE: Lets talk romance! - Laike - 09-09-2015

I am kinda of different than a lot of people when it comes to romance. Basically... I love story. I love new things I love... Just really cool stories.

In the context of relationships, I rarely.. rarely rp just romance. I don't go to a bar, and find a girl and woo her and bring her on dates... things like that. Nothing wrong with that, just not my style.

I'm more likely to RP running into a girl while some hired goon of someone I offended is chasing me in the street... Asking her to cover for me. Dragging her into the story from place and place to hide.... Then slowly they sort of like each other. Then maybe... they try to kiss. But oh no! He is planning to flee the city and can't get involved so he runs off... Woe!

Doesn't need to be sad.. I just.... I'm more a sucker for really cool plot development, so romance is something that another rper needs to commit to with me. He's not going to love you in a day, or two... or three. And if you don't like going on adventures... End up hanging from a tree trying to grab fruit for some hair-brained scheme while a Coeurl snarls below... chances are you'll never be in a relationship with my characters!

A lot of times, if romance is a path. I'll kind of act as friends.. and inject romatic moments into the scene few and far between. Outrunning some angry boar only to trip down a cliff... Laike reaches over and plucks a flower, handing it to the scraped and bruised woman, "You look beautiful today, you know that right?"

I guess what I'm saying is... I don't really enjoy straight contentment in Romance. If there is no underlying plot. No cool stories, no reason for these two people to be hooked by fate whether it happy or tragic.. I really don't seek it.

TLDR: Fun first, and if the romance comes.. cool!

RE: Lets talk romance! - Caspar - 09-09-2015

(09-09-2015, 03:20 PM)Shadottie Wrote: The kind of romantic thing I'm a sucker for in RP/stories is when you have that super grumpy, cold person and someone desu-gentle trying their best to understand and be there for that person. Alas, they butt heads are always at odds, and there's a point where like... something happens and the butthead, grumpy person acts selflessly for the other, and.. things just kinda pick up from there.  It's super precious for that loner-anti-hero whatever type to feel something and compelled to help others, and develop awl the feels from there.  Good stuff.
It's a bit embarrassing, but I think I've come to like this too...
I think because I naturally gravitate towards playing characters who have trouble with feelings. Even when I'm not looking for romance story lines, people try to ungrump my grumps just as a matter of course.