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RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - Hyakki - 01-16-2014

(01-15-2014, 08:26 PM)MimettGreens Wrote: Thank you for all the responses everyone :3 I admit ,I do tend to over worry, it comes from having social anxiety issues, sadly it tends to follow me over into the internet as well and on MMO's! >_<

I'm in the same boat. I am slowly starting to come around and interact with strangers and chat with my fellow FC members but its still pretty nerve wracking. In RP I worry that others will think I'm intrusive or that my characters are too weird or marysue jerks. I think my main would be a blast to roleplay if I wasn't so shy and self conscious. For now, I'm content to be a background observer.

If you would like to RP, Delainaut Merillat is my Elezen (hey, we have similar first names!) I RP him much like myself, kind of shy and awkward. He is an entry level customs officer at Mealvaan's gate in Limsa Lominsa. Paperwork and more paperwork all day every day.

Alves (in-game name Tahlsho'a Rheen) is my main, he's a bodyguard/porter/extra hand for hire, laid back friendly guy, a bit impulsive. At least that's how I'd like to RP him once I'm more comfortable.

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - McBeefâ„¢ - 01-16-2014

As many others have said, it's mostly just putting yourself out there. I started RPing roughly over a month ago, because one day instead of just running past all the people /saying in the Quicksand, I stopped to talk to them instead. I had lots of missteps and bad decisions the first few weeks, and probably alienated some people, but overall I made lots of new friends, and became involved with lot's of stories. So yeah just put yourself out there, it is of course possible that you might screw up at first (like I did) but eventually you'll find you niche and discover how you want to play your character.

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - Roen - 01-16-2014

There's a lot of great responses already!  So I won't need to repeat them.  I just wanted to add my encouragement to the thread.  Everyone who has posted here will not mind AT ALL of being sent a tell or being approached in game.  Me included!

And I highly HIGHLY recommend taking C'kayah's advice about sending a cold /tell at least every time you are in game to a potential RPer! I have exchanged tells plenty of times just to keep in touch without it leading to an RP session with that person right away.  But at least it will help break the ice.

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - Nykkus Trachspyr - 01-16-2014

There is a lot of encouragement in this thread already, so I'll simply toss my name into the hat.

Look up Nykkus Trachspyr on Balmung anytime. I'm always happy for walk up RP. The character is rough around the edges, but would easily act as a gateway to some RP circles that wouldn't be hard to integrate your character into.

That goes for everyone.

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - MimettGreens - 01-16-2014

@Apl_J Oh god, don't get me wrong, I don't expect people to walk up to me and start RP'ing at all! D: I'm sorry if it came across as that. I do want to approach people but I just sort of stop and think 'well would they want me to bug them?' or 'I'm not as good as them' and so on. I kind of scare myself off a bit. Partly anxiety, partly because I'm so used to people in other MMO's telling me to bugger off. I'm sorry if it came across as me being contrary or anything! D:

Thanks all, I probably come across as the worst person ever XD As I say, I am so so used to being told to get lost or to go away when trying to join in on other games, that I've kind of schooled myself into thinking it'll happen here and so I might hang around RP areas and instead people watch rather than join in >_<

@Xieveral I worry about that as well, that people might just be like 'Your character sucks, gtfo' or something, so I tend to sort of back off and watch others RP.
Delainaut reminds me of my guy Del, he's quiet and shy, bit socially awkward. Kind of like me. Where as my Dragoon who I plan on transferring is really calm, cool, collected and bad ass. xD

Thank you so much for all the replies everyone, it's all really encouraging to hear that people honestly don't mind. I will definitely try the cold /tell thing at some point and see if I can't network a bit with people. I do need to get WoW out of my head a lot, as it's one of the main reasons I'm so cautious about other players.

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - Arkghyom - 01-16-2014

(01-16-2014, 01:14 PM)MimettGreens Wrote: @Apl_J  Oh god, don't get me wrong, I don't expect people to walk up to me and start RP'ing at all! D: I'm sorry if it came across as that.  I do want to approach people but  I just sort of stop and think 'well would they want me to bug them?' or 'I'm not as good as them' and so on. I kind of scare myself off a bit. Partly anxiety, partly because I'm so used to people in other MMO's telling me to bugger off. I'm sorry if it came across as me being contrary or anything! D:

Thanks all, I probably come across as the worst person ever XD As I say, I am so so used to being told to get lost or to go away when trying to join in on other games, that I've kind of schooled myself into thinking it'll happen here and so I might hang around RP areas and instead people watch rather than join in >_<

@Xieveral I worry about that as well, that people might just be like 'Your character sucks, gtfo' or something, so I tend to sort of back off and watch others RP.
Delainaut reminds me of my guy Del, he's quiet and shy, bit socially awkward. Kind of like me. Where as my Dragoon who I plan on transferring is really calm, cool, collected and bad ass. xD

Thank you so much for all the replies everyone, it's all really encouraging to hear that people honestly don't mind. I will definitely try the cold /tell thing at some point and see if I can't network a bit with people. I do need to get WoW out of my head a lot, as it's one of the main reasons I'm so cautious about other players.

Oh hey! I just noticed you said Europa and I realized I'm there too. Hit me up whenever if you wanna hang or establish some sort of RP practice session. I'd be glad to help!

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - Arkghyom - 01-16-2014

And don't forget to have fun and enjoy the wonders of role-playing! Big Grin

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - Tiergan - 01-16-2014

Advice Piece 1) If you try to randomly RP with a flock of people, they don't respond, and there are more than 5 of them RPing all at once.  They might not be ignoring you.

Advice Piece 2) Join a giant mess of linkshells.  Not only can you hunt down an RP FC, but you can join up to 8 linkshells for RP purposes!  I have almost maxed out the number I have - you can use them to hunt down other RPers with similar tastes and it's way easier to break into RP when you're already part of a group than being a total stranger.

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - C'kayah Polaali - 01-16-2014

(01-16-2014, 03:08 PM)Tiergan Wrote: Advice Piece 2) Join a giant mess of linkshells.  Not only can you hunt down an RP FC, but you can join up to 8 linkshells for RP purposes!  I have almost maxed out the number I have - you can use them to hunt down other RPers with similar tastes and it's way easier to break into RP when you're already part of a group than being a total stranger.
This. So much this!

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - MimettGreens - 01-16-2014

@Tiergan I never claimed anyone was ignoring me,(being ignored is the norm when RP'ing on wow unless you're popular on my server xD) what I was saying is that I lack the nerve to even begin an RP(I've tried in other games and had people tell me that they are RP'ing in that area or that I'm wrong, etc) and just am unsure how to join in without pissing people off. XD I know some people wont respond to OOC /tells since they only respond IC, and I know a lot of people in one place means a chat log spam wherein speech can be lost in someones log. My problem is more...I just don't know how to network with other RP'ers and sort of, join in. I don't want to just leap into someone's RP just for reasons like it perhaps being a plot they don't want/need others in and so on. I hope I'm not coming off as arrogant or something, implying people are being 'means' and such on FF. I don't think that at all, I just worry I'll annoy the crap out of fellow RP'ers since they all seem so good at it! XD

A lot of folk who RP I often find already know each other and I worry I intrude on them is all? Which is why I need to try my hand at cold /tell xD

I mean I do definitely need to get used to it compared to WoW, but most of my main MMO rp'ing experience comes from WoW where a lot of the time, elitists in the RP 'hang outs' told you to sod off. It's kind of what I'm expecting when I talk to most people on MMO's now and its a hard habit to break. >_< Part and partial of it is it's just me being a bit of a loser and letting my worries stop me. Tongue

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - FreelanceWizard - 01-16-2014

Well, WoW is a fairly hostile place for RP. Sad Between the griefers and the cliques, it's not a happy place.

I'll toss my name out there, too. Always feel free to start RPing with me if you see me about, and I'm open to setting up scenes, too. L'yhta's an outgoing sort and enjoys meeting new people. Smile Even if your character is shy and wouldn't approach directly, if you toss out an RP hook to which I can respond, I try my best to bite.

I also enjoy pulling together IC dungeon runs, which are a great way to break the ice since all you need is a setup for why you're all there (hired by the same person, assigned it by a Grand Company, etc.). After that, interaction is guaranteed -- especially if the hook is amusing ("Wait, they told you to look for the fat miqo'te?").

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - Ildur - 01-16-2014

The only problem with IC dungeon runs is that, without a vanity system, you can't look the part if you have specific looks in mind. For example, one of my characters is a Brass Blade and I have gone to incredible lenghts to get her to look like one. However, when I try to run dungeons with that gear, I get plastered because some pieces of it are too low level and others aren't for tanks.
And let's not mention the silly timer.

However, if you can handwave the looks or don't mind, then it is quite a good way to get to know other characters.

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - Crisiet - 01-16-2014

(01-16-2014, 01:14 PM)MimettGreens Wrote: I do need to get WoW out of my head a lot, as it's one of the main reasons I'm so cautious about other players.

Argent Dawn was a terrible place with some terrible people and I'm glad I left it behind.

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - McBeefâ„¢ - 01-16-2014

(01-16-2014, 04:51 PM)Ildur Wrote: The only problem with IC dungeon runs is that, without a vanity system, you can't look the part if you have specific looks in mind. For example, one of my characters is a Brass Blade and I have gone to incredible lenghts to get her to look like one. However, when I try to run dungeons with that gear, I get plastered because some pieces of it are too low level and others aren't for tanks.
And let's not mention the silly timer.

However, if you can handwave the looks or don't mind, then it is quite a good way to get to know other characters.

Or wait until you get to 50, because when you have all i90 accessories you can wear whatever you want Big Grin.

RE: Struggling to join in RP (Balmung) - Lyse Falen - 01-17-2014

Step 1: Fine Lyse Crofte, Nocturne Barnabontant, or Elmina Chere
Step 2: Emote at them.
(optional)Step 3: if they do not respond, prod them in tells to make sure they caught it.
Step 4: Profit as I will RP with everyone. <3