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RE: Lets talk romance! - Steel Wolf - 01-17-2016
Romantic RP that I've enjoyed tends to be the fun, clumsy stuff. The awkward and the derpy things people say or do, either when they're amorous or coital...those things are far more interesting and fun. I don't mind a good, basic moment alone now and again, but attempting to make a pass and clumsy-ing it up just...it endears. It makes the character feel more alive.
That may stem from my own ways of coping with romance. I have been labeled a tsundere because I absolutely suck at voicing romantic feelings, I find snuggling to be a waste of time, and I don't fawn or flop at people but I do care in ways that are practical, like cooking or cleaning.
And if I do get called out I have called them an idiot.
RE: Lets talk romance! - Aden Dellebecque - 01-17-2016
I'm very burned out on romance RP-wise so I'm not really interested in it. That said, my favorite type is romantic friendship--that is, not necessarily a direct and traditional romance, but friends who are close enough that a degree of intimacy (not necessarily sexual) is a normal extension of the friendship. If you extrapolate that into a traditional romance it's the sort of deal where characters are friends first and foremost, and lovers second.
I guess, what I'm saying here is my preferred romance is to take the emotional intensity and intimacy you would otherwise put into a romance and roll that into bonds between friends--but to not quite take that last leap to lovers, even though outsiders may read some of the behavior between the characters as such at times. The kinds of bonds of brother- and sisterhood where you wouldn't merely die for your comrade, but also live for them. There's an awful lot of the former, but not nearly enough of the latter. From a purely storytelling perspective I consider that a sort of romance since it fills that role emotionally.
RE: Lets talk romance! - Marcy - 01-18-2016
Just use use the D.E.N.N.I.S system.
@4:28
https://youtu.be/Bmuau40yMV0?t=4m28s
RE: Lets talk romance! - Tamm'lin - 01-18-2016
(01-17-2016, 10:46 PM)Raidho Wrote: I guess, what I'm saying here is my preferred romance is to take the emotional intensity and intimacy you would otherwise put into a romance and roll that into bonds between friends--but to not quite take that last leap to lovers, even though outsiders may read some of the behavior between the characters as such at times. Â The kinds of bonds of brother- and sisterhood where you wouldn't merely die for your comrade, but also live for them. Â
The above is what I generally RP AND do in RL.Â
Right now for RP, my main and her friend are practically inseparable. They've got a closeness that simply being friends can't describe, but there aren't any romantic feelings attached. We didn't start out the backstories that way, but the other player and I have been OOC friends for a while, so we quickly tweaked our char's stories to essentially share a backstory - They're a duo and honestly my most fulfilling RP thing at the moment.Â
As for RP romance-y stuff; When it happens, it happens. It's never the focus, but when it does happen, generally it's because someone managed to beat someone else in a fight. Not so much for sappy, more for tsundere stuff. Ha!
IRL, I'm a huge sap. I tend to be more comfortable with small gestures, rather than over the top professions of adoration. I'm pretty plain when it comes to feelings, and honestly would prefer close bromance than romance.Â
RE: Lets talk romance! - Aden Dellebecque - 01-22-2016
(01-18-2016, 07:01 AM)Tammlin Wrote: As for RP romance-y stuff; When it happens, it happens. It's never the focus, but when it does happen, generally it's because someone managed to beat someone else in a fight.
^ Pretty much that. While I'm not pursuing it, and in fact to some degree avoiding it, my characters have a habit of coming out of nowhere with this stuff. If it happens it will probably start and end with an asskicking.
RE: Lets talk romance! - MissMizzy - 01-22-2016
I like natural as it happens. Although with my main (Elza Fairhan) right now in game she is very shy when it comes to meeting new people and especially other guys so her friends like to persuade or challenge her to go to some single events or auctions or what not sometimes. That being said, I pretty much try to go to like all events no matter what they are cause they are fun, so even if I go with her to a singles event wearing a colour and that, I don't force her to meet ever person in their cause they are all single just to get her a romance. Because like I said, natural is my favorite.
RE: Lets talk romance! - ArmachiA - 01-22-2016
Slow. Agonizingly slow.
My character and her husband were together for a year and a half before they got married.
I'm good with slow.
This is also true of real life.
RE: Lets talk romance! - FancySharkette - 01-29-2016
I think I would like a romance where the two begin as friends. As they explore and talk to one another, they get closer, until one or the other confesses. The actual romance itself would be cute, fluffy, and light hearted, where they spend time together whispering sweet things to one another. Anything more from there would also need to happen slowly and naturally.
RE: Lets talk romance! - chansee - 02-04-2016
(01-29-2016, 11:48 AM)FancySharkette Wrote: I think I would like a romance where the two begin as friends. As they explore and talk to one another, they get closer, until one or the other confesses. The actual romance itself would be cute, fluffy, and light hearted, where they spend time together whispering sweet things to one another. Anything more from there would also need to happen slowly and naturally.pretty much this!
RE: Lets talk romance! - Ruen - 02-04-2016
Not necessarily only romantic-love; Mine's probably the unspoken sort of love. Like, they may never even say they love each other because there is no need to.Â
The little things that sort of hint to how much they care about one another with a completely innocent but affectionate touch or smile.Â
Having total freedom to go or do as one pleases, but having that unbreakable bond and knowing you belong somewhere and are welcome no matter what.
RE: Lets talk romance! - Lamia - 02-04-2016
Oh dear me, I'm actually a bit shy about this subject so forgive if I come off as rambling somewhat.
Relationship dynamics have always been a fascination of mine, as well as the stories that often go along with them. How two characters can meet, grow, and develop one another in unseen and unpredictable ways. The way those changes reflect not only in the immediate, but the long term way that character perceives and further interacts with the world. But also the dynamic itself. In a chaotic world such as Eorzea, one not only has their own conflicts to solve, but that of the realm itself, and world events, cultural influences, and other factors that serve to provide challenges and obstacles for them to face.
As a reader, and as a writer, I find role-playing that 'journey' to be quite fulfilling and often a book I simply can't put down. And as the years pass, the patches change, and the story of the game unfolds, so too will those characters arch stretch onward. Unfortunately over the years, I've found it rarer and rarer to find RP partners interested in such a thing. Thus it's been almost 6 years since I had the chance to rp, and write that deep of a story with another players characters.
RE: Lets talk romance! - JudicialHunter - 02-04-2016
It kind of depends on the character we're talking here!
- Rihxo's in love with love. She has plenty of people coming after her tail, and she knows it. Thus, she's into a sort of 'storybook' romance, if you will; though, with her current boytoyfriend it wasn't/isn't really your storybook kind of thing.
- Arata's the total opposite. Most people overlook her as a potential romantic option, mostly because she's a a total ice bitch queen. She really just doesn't understand love, as discovered by a recent talk with one of her friends. She doesn't even realize she's in love. She's that oblivious to the concept.
- Adelaide... she's the kind of girl that will turn you on, then turn on you. Femme fatale sort of thing. I didn't take that first bit from TV Tropes or anything, hah. Nope. She knows she can get what she wants if she deems somebody worth her time (and most people aren't) and add that onto the fact she's not really looking, and we have a woman who... really doesn't care about romance much. Who needs romance when you have skulls to crack open and operate on?
As for me IRL? Uhh, I just need someone who's okay with my awkwardness. You'd think I'd be better with people IRL since I RP romance so much, but you are dead wrong.
RE: Lets talk romance! - Juromaro - 02-04-2016
I love romantic RP, actually met my wife on ffxi and while she thought we were roleplaying I was actually just flirting with her and after 4 years we finally met in person and been together for 9 years now.
With that said while I love romance in RP since I play mostly female characters I'm hard pressed to find another female that's okay with roleplaying a romance with a guy that plays female characters. I guess that means I should play male characters if I want a good romance arc, but alas I don't like how the male characters in this game look in armor.
RE: Lets talk romance! - Alderique - 02-04-2016
I'm pretty flexible with the IC details, as long as the relationship is believable for the characters involved. I require a certain level of OOC chemistry to pull off a good romance, and for the most part I only get involved with male characters, so potential suitors are already pretty rare.
I often find myself falling into a caregiver role, playing a character who wants to support and dote on the other to the best of his ability, potentially to the point of overdoing it or causing more problems in the long run.
RE: Lets talk romance! - Aysun - 02-04-2016
I was forbidden by my IRL ex-husband from having IC romantic relationships for a long time, so I utilized Aysun's history to explain why she was uninterested and broken when it came to romance. So she was single for a long time in 1.0.
Shortly after launch of ARR I met who would eventually become her fiancee by chance. Aysun developed friendship with this character, and we RP'd a lot. He helped her extensively, accepted her fully, and eventually developed feelings for her over the course of several months. My IRL relationship was in its death throes, so an IC romantic relationship was allowed to develop.
I like slow and natural. None of it was planned or arranged OOCly, though we had open OOC communication so we became friends as well. Our RP styles just meshed, and our characters meshed (and met at a good time IC and OOC), so it worked.
I am a major sucker for the initial courting/developing feelings - that's easily my favorite part of any romantic RP. Figuring each other's quirks out, learning to read each other and such is also great fun. I was worried about things becoming stagnant, what with it being a "good" relationship and all IC, but it hasn't been. We haven't had to create artificial drama to make it interesting. The character development has been interesting on its own! Two years later they as a couple have been through a lot together, and it's been a great time.