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Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Nara'to - 03-17-2015

Greetings all and thank you for taking the time to read this.  What I am looking for are people who would enjoy having my character, Nara'to, as a friend or companion whether be on the field of battle or someone to talk to.  He seems more comfortable around Roeg, Highlander and Hyru.  Here is a little about him.

Nara'to is shy first and foremost.  Events in his past caused him to shy away from others and to keep his distance.  He will walk around cities and observe others frequently but never has he engaged anyone in conversation or idle chit chat.  Anyone who actually has tried to talk to him would get a quiet comment from him, a polite bow followed by him pretty much running for it.  He really is a shy guy so please forgive him for that.

In terms of what class/job he is I am still on the fence about this.  Currently I am either going with him being a Dragoon or a Summoner/Scholar.  As far as family goes he is the second son of three.  He has an older brother and younger sister.  He is the son of a woman named Nara though his father passed on long ago.  So he was pretty much raised by his mother and she was no push over.  She never took it easy on Nara in order to prepare him for when he left home.  Though he may be shy he could surprise you.

If any more info is needed I will be glad to help.  I've never done anything like this before so I apologize in advance if this isn't the right way to go about this.  Thank you for reading and here's to hoping Nara's interactions take a turn for the better.

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Saiyuki Kobuki - 03-19-2015

Hey Nara'to!

Name's Luca! My character has a way of break others out from that shyness spell. If you're ever down for an RP session, hit me up on game. I'm usually on during evening hours.

Hope to hear from you! Smile

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Nara'to - 03-26-2015

Apologies for taking so long to respond, for some reason my alert never showed me anyone responded to this thread and for that I am sorry.

But yeah, anytime you see me running around or something feel free to bump into Nara.  I finally have a thing going with him and chose to go with a shy Dragoon thing.

Here's to hoping we bump into each other ^.^

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Scaraphae - 03-27-2015

My girl likes to try to befriend (read pester) random strangers on the street/sitting down/wherever she might find them really, though she's a fellow miqo'te. So if you don't mind the contact potentially being more annoying than anything else, I'll happily hit you up for rp. If not, good look in your search!

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Warren Castille - 03-27-2015

(03-17-2015, 04:24 PM)Narato Wrote: Nara'to is shy first and foremost.  Events in his past caused him to shy away from others and to keep his distance.  He will walk around cities and observe others frequently but never has he engaged anyone in conversation or idle chit chat.  Anyone who actually has tried to talk to him would get a quiet comment from him, a polite bow followed by him pretty much running for it.  He really is a shy guy so please forgive him for that.

This will cause you difficulties. You're asking for people to invest in a character who, upon interaction, seems to not want interaction. Roleplaying is a give-and-take relationship, and when your initial reaction is to (seemingly) avoid roleplay, people are going to stop bothering you with it.

If your character is ever in Thanalan on Saturday nights, there's an event called the Grindstone that happens every week at 10PM EST. Details are in the links in my signature, but it's a fighting tournament where you will be forced to work/fight with other people. It makes for a good place to make new friends/rivals and get involved with strangers, I think, so perhaps some nonverbal communication might open some doors?

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Nara'to - 03-27-2015

(03-27-2015, 10:50 AM)Warren Castille Wrote:
(03-17-2015, 04:24 PM)Nara Wrote: Nara'to is shy first and foremost.  Events in his past caused him to shy away from others and to keep his distance.  He will walk around cities and observe others frequently but never has he engaged anyone in conversation or idle chit chat.  Anyone who actually has tried to talk to him would get a quiet comment from him, a polite bow followed by him pretty much running for it.  He really is a shy guy so please forgive him for that.

This will cause you difficulties. You're asking for people to invest in a character who, upon interaction, seems to not want interaction. Roleplaying is a give-and-take relationship, and when your initial reaction is to (seemingly) avoid roleplay, people are going to stop bothering you with it.

If your character is ever in Thanalan on Saturday nights, there's an event called the Grindstone that happens every week at 10PM EST. Details are in the links in my signature, but it's a fighting tournament where you will be forced to work/fight with other people. It makes for a good place to make new friends/rivals and get involved with strangers, I think, so perhaps some nonverbal communication might open some doors?
Oh I know, I actually revised my character a little so that his shyness isn't something that will make him avoid people entirely.  I've discussed this with someone in game and changed my character a little so that interaction is easier for him.

Thank you though for responding.

And to the poster above Warren I honestly don't mind at all.  Get in touch with me whenever you wish to arrange something ^.^

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - D'eshel - 03-27-2015

(03-27-2015, 06:21 PM)Nara Wrote:   I've discussed this with someone in game and changed my character a little so that interaction is easier for him.

*feels the rising pride*

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - ThatOldDusk - 03-28-2015

Hit up Fafrung Bhaleghust sometimes, If you don't mind having a walking tin can as a pal.

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Nara'to - 03-30-2015

I wish to thank everyone for responding.  However I will no longer be checking back on this post because I wish for truly random encounters in roleplay.  This is starting to feel like everybody on this server wants to schedule roleplay rather than it just being random.

I do apologize but this is how I feel.  Balmung feels like I need to file paperwork to do anything and I am finding that no one really does any actual random RP outside of their circles or cliques/friends.

I'm not trying to be rude or disrespectful but I just can't handle this.  I want random RP not try to hook up with someone via request.  My apologies for saying this.  I know what this site is for and finally find myself understanding now.  I've been doing this the wrong way.

If anyone ever sees Nara'to walking around feel free to bump into him randomly.  I won't be scheduling play dates, I'll be seeking random RP.

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Warren Castille - 03-30-2015

(03-30-2015, 02:40 AM)Narato Wrote: I wish to thank everyone for responding.  However I will no longer be checking back on this post

Good luck. I don't think that attitude helps any, though.

Edit: I'll elaborate because I'm not sure if you know how others (myself, at least) might read this.

First, this part:
Quote:I'm not trying to be rude or disrespectful but I just can't handle this.

worries me. Your other post mentioned you stressing out repeatedly over not being able to find roleplay, and this doesn't make me worry for your character, it makes me worry for you. Your penchant for not returning to address comments or threads is also worrying, but it makes you look like you're not actually interested in anything anyone might have to say. It closes a dialogue, it ends discussion, and if it ends with you closing the door in people's faces, they become unlikely to continue knocking.

Quote: I know what this site is for and finally find myself understanding now. I've been doing this the wrong way.

I'm not sure I follow you here. What is this site for, then? Do you think it's all "scheduling playdates?" People in this very thread gave you permission to contact them looking for roleplay in game - is that too much onus for you? If you never want to be the person to reach out, that's fine, but you have to accept the consequences for waiting for everyone else to engage you. The reason things might seem cliqueish is because you're waiting for someone to draw you in entirely, as opposed to breaking the ice yourself.

Quote:If anyone ever sees Nara'to walking around feel free to bump into him randomly. I won't be scheduling play dates, I'll be seeking random RP.

Finally, I will be one of the few people to tell you this to your face: You are one of ten thousand solitary miqo'te men looking for connections. If you don't seek them out yourself - and I don't mean emoting to yourself in a bar, or making yourself "available" and waiting for someone else - you will forever be overlooked. There are people meeting your stereotype coming to the game each and every day, and if you don't stand out, you will not stand out.

On the off-chance you do come back and read this, I apologize for being mean to you, but your tone and implied intent worry me and I don't want you to believe that we're the ones doing all of the ostracizing here.

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Unnamed Mercenary - 03-30-2015

(03-30-2015, 02:40 AM)Nara Wrote: I wish to thank everyone for responding.  However I will no longer be checking back on this post because I wish for truly random encounters in roleplay.  This is starting to feel like everybody on this server wants to schedule roleplay rather than it just being random.

I do apologize but this is how I feel.  Balmung feels like I need to file paperwork to do anything and I am finding that no one really does any actual random RP outside of their circles or cliques/friends.

I'm not trying to be rude or disrespectful but I just can't handle this.  I want random RP not try to hook up with someone via request.  My apologies for saying this.  I know what this site is for and finally find myself understanding now.  I've been doing this the wrong way.

If anyone ever sees Nara'to walking around feel free to bump into him randomly.  I won't be scheduling play dates, I'll be seeking random RP.

I don't want to sound mean saying this (but it's likely regardless of intent), but what were you really expecting? Sure, yes, there's going to be random RP, but like so many of the other threads that have been opened the past week, if you want to get in "someone's social circle", random RP probably isn't going to do that. Of course we have to schedule things a bit, even if it's relatively simple stuff like "when can I expect you online?" or "hey, are you available now or shortly after?". It isn't as if 100% of RP is set in stone like "this scene will be allocated exactly 43 minutes and 57 seconds. It will begin at 7:03 PM Pacific time because the sun will be setting" strict or anything.

Outside of the tools and advice others have given, I'm not really sure what else can be provided. I speak for myself (and the possible other like-minded individuals) here, but we're not NPCs. The RPC was made to help find RP, and I think it does a pretty good job of that, whether that means you're only checking the calendar for public events (which are great to get to know people) or to post IC stories (which help people gain interest to seek you out) or to find similarly-minded people who are online roughly around the same time as you.

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Berrod Armstrong - 03-30-2015

To have come here and posted looking for connections is not something that inspires random RP. Randomly approaching people in game does that. People typically respond to posts that state that a poster is seeking RP by -- yes -- scheduling, organizing, booking. It is a playdate, yes, because nothing will happen otherwise (among those who have read the post). Note also that the RPC actually represents a FEW of the roleplayers on the server.

I very well understand that you don't want to be rude, and you don't want to be disrespectful, but...that doesn't make this any less offputting. I can only recommend that you actively approach and see where that takes you, because standing around waiting for someone to bump into your character randomly can be a more miss than hit situation. 

There is tons of random RP on Balmung. I see it every day -- people who approach others who are posting out proper hooks. 

Good luck, though.

RE: Seeking Friends, Companionship, For A Shy Miqo'te - Mimiko - 03-30-2015

Hello there!

Mimi is always on the lookout for new friends and people to talk to. 

https://wiki.ffxiv-roleplayers.com/pages/Mimiko_Miyuki

See you around!