(09-06-2016, 01:34 PM)Nymlyn Wrote: My husband and I have tried going to a couple of events or places like the Quicksand, but they seem to be very... 'chat spammy' so it's very difficult to meet new people. On top of that, most of the LSes we've found or joined seem to have established cliques that make it a bit hard to get involved with anything.

Obviously I'm not saying everything or everyone's like that, we've just had bad luck so far that's all. We're going to keep trying, but I'll keep an eye out for the communities that have been recommended so far.

Thank you guys

(09-06-2016, 02:36 PM)ExAtomos Wrote:

(09-06-2016, 01:34 PM)Nymlyn Wrote: My husband and I have tried going to a couple of events or places like the Quicksand, but they seem to be very... 'chat spammy' so it's very difficult to meet new people. On top of that, most of the LSes we've found or joined seem to have established cliques that make it a bit hard to get involved with anything.

Obviously I'm not saying everything or everyone's like that, we've just had bad luck so far that's all. We're going to keep trying, but I'll keep an eye out for the communities that have been recommended so far.

Thank you guys

We try to post event announcements to the Levelers LS if we're attending and anyone is welcome to come along. It may be a bit tough though for intimate RP since the chat scroll is real. (Kind of like any over-crowded party where you can't hear the guy standing next to you yelling in your ear. XD ) We also have a Wednesday evening drop-in RP thing at the Bramble Lodge, but attendance has been low due to the summer lull / people taking a break til 3.4. If it's something you may like, just mention it on the LS or to me through pm and I'll run over! You guys are both awesome and I'd love to hang out. <3

(09-06-2016, 02:41 PM)Nymlyn Wrote:

(09-06-2016, 02:36 PM)ExAtomos Wrote:

(09-06-2016, 01:34 PM)Nymlyn Wrote: My husband and I have tried going to a couple of events or places like the Quicksand, but they seem to be very... 'chat spammy' so it's very difficult to meet new people. On top of that, most of the LSes we've found or joined seem to have established cliques that make it a bit hard to get involved with anything.

Obviously I'm not saying everything or everyone's like that, we've just had bad luck so far that's all. We're going to keep trying, but I'll keep an eye out for the communities that have been recommended so far.

Thank you guys

We try to post event announcements to the Levelers LS if we're attending and anyone is welcome to come along. It may be a bit tough though for intimate RP since the chat scroll is real. (Kind of like any over-crowded party where you can't hear the guy standing next to you yelling in your ear. XD ) We also have a Wednesday evening drop-in RP thing at the Bramble Lodge, but attendance has been low due to the summer lull / people taking a break til 3.4. If it's something you may like, just mention it on the LS or to me through pm and I'll run over! You guys are both awesome and I'd love to hang out. <3

That sounds fun! And btw your LS is probably the biggest/only real bright spot we've really found on Balmung.  I'd love to get a chance to get to know some of the people in the LS better.

(09-06-2016, 03:00 PM)Kilieit Wrote: For big events held at private houses, I find asking if there's side-rooms available for overflow is usually a good bet - as is attending with a friend, so there's no mistake that you're sat in silence because you're AFK (as opposed to being shy/overwhelmed).

Smaller tavern nights, watching for plots to get involved in, creating scenarios over IC linkshells that 1-2 characters can respond to... aaand talking OOCly over tumblr or twitter about "what would be cool for our characters to do", and then doing it... are how I've made most of my RP contacts.

ExAtomos' linkshell is a good btw.

In general though, I think my core piece of advice is this: be eager to initiate. Both in IC and OOC.

Most people don't have the time or energy to repeatedly reach out to strangers and try to draw them out of themselves. If you're present and active and giving "hooks" for people to join in with in the form of "idle-emotes" (like... your character is just standing there in-game, but they're not doing the same thing IC, right? They're looking around nervously, or smoking a cigar, or fiddling with a linkpearl, or something; emote that out loud.), then it's more others will be meeting you half-way. It's easier on them - and therefore more likely to result in something for you.

The same goes for OOC conversations in linkshells - bring up topics, suggest activities, offer help, ask if you can add people to your friends list for future contact, and just generally be chatty.

I get that this isn't always easy, and TBH I need to take a break for a day or two soon because I'm getting frazzled; need to nip that in the bud before it turns into burnout. But that's how I made the RP connections I have now, anyway!