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Melodia · **10-26-2015, 07:13 AM**

Was so much fun and had a great time! Definitely a worthwhile and fun event. Smile

Garalona · **10-26-2015, 08:02 AM**

I got stood up, but I still appreciate you taking the time to set all this up, Ilwe'ran. I had the option to join another group but opted to just get some other stuff done instead since my lazy Sunday was getting a little too lazy anyway. :b

I actually have an idea to make these a little easier to organize in the future if you keep doing them.

Ilwe'ran · **10-26-2015, 12:50 PM**

I'm glad you guys had some fun and nope, for now I'm going to take a break. Aside the fact that it takes some time to organize it, it's also disheartening to see that some people just don't come and don't contact me before, during or even after the event to at least apologize.

This is why there are some long periods without any event on the RPC and why so many people who organize them stop : As soon as you have a part of the people who committed to come don't show up and don't even bother contacting you, it's not fun anymore and when this happens 3 events in a row, you actually begin to wonder why you even bother to prepare something and spend a lot of time on this if it's to have to deal with that sort of attitude. Life is already complicated enough, you deal with a lot of crap every day so why bothering with that when you're in game ?
People need to learn that there are real people behind the screen. That they deserve respect and politeness. When I see that yesterday 7/33 people didn't come and didn't contact me, I find that both disheartening and enervating : They took the place of 7 others who were in waiting list and couldn't join the event and I find it rude. But when you add to this that on the 2PM meetings, 4 people were missing and out of the 8 people in the waiting list who were supposed to be open for a last minute replacement, only 1 was online and couldn't go because they committed to something else. You just want to say stop.

I remember last year when a similar discussion happened. It was after an event Dogberry organized and I fully understand him : People were complaining that there weren't enough events, thus some others went out of their way to organize some. As a result, those events were almost ignored or those committing to go didn't show up and didn't contact the persons organizing them.
Let me put it simply : If you want some events to happen, it's not only the organizers responsibility, it's also the people who are supposed to come who have to do their part. Otherwise, why bothering preparing something if you already know that there will be a part of the people missing and you cannot even replace them by others ? And when the majority of mails you receive are actually complaints about how the event is organized you just want to say "okay, bye, just do it yourself", even more when you take the time to answer and those people don't even bother to contact you back (and sometimes don't even come to their meeting).
Don't misunderstand me, I make the difference between suggestions and complaints, I did consider all the suggestions and used some of them. I even contacted some of the people regarding those said suggestions. But some people are just straight complaining for a reason or another without suggesting anything or even trying to understand some of the choices which have been made regarding the form, the event or even their partner.

It's true that those events makes some people happy and I still think that it's a good idea to make possible some meetings between some people who don't know each others. But for that, those willing to participate have to actually behave properly, otherwise it will systematically stop at some point.

For all those reasons, I'm going to take a break for now and take care of myself â™¥ . It has been really nice to organize this for those who actually came and enjoyed it, I might do it again after a break, maybe I'll do it differently, I don't know for now, I'll see once I'll be motivated again Smile

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***RiniKett*** · **10-26-2015, 01:27 PM**

Ilwe'ran, I can honestly say that, from reading your thoughts and words, I am with a heavy heart at the thought that you feel, in a way, unappreciated for the time and work that you put into hosting this event.

But I didn't start writing to pity you, but to encourage you. It is true that some people will grip, moan, and complain about every little detail, but they aren't everyone. I personally really enjoyed the event and I've met someone that I will most likely continue to roleplay with for a very long time. I think that even us, the ones that did show up, owe you a great deal of thanks and we should voice that more often. It is far too common for people to enjoy an event and then say nothing about it and while I don't believe we are wrong for not saying something I still believe that we should give credit where it is due; it's the least we can do. I've been there and I know how discouraging it is, but if only one good thing comes out of it you have still affected two people's lives with positivity. I created Wayfarers based on this thought. I don't expect it to be anything large or important, but if I can help a handful of people then it's more than doing nothing. We need people like you to do these things, to bear the weight of others depending on you and you handled it very well and professionally.

All in all, after all my ramblings, I just want to say thank you for a wonderful event. I'll be looking forward to your next one once you take a well deserved break. Take care, and I hope that this provides at least a little bit of hope and fulfillment to your day. Smile

Garalona · **10-26-2015, 01:47 PM**

I still really appreciate what you do for the community, Ilwe'ran. The reminders of upcoming events in Open RP is just as simple as making a macro, I know, but it's great that somebody keeps track of these things and nudges people.

It was sweet that you actually checked where I was to see that I was alone in the area, too. I was stalling for time on the off chance the person was running late, and I didn't want to message you at exactly 2:15 going yo what gives.

Running events is stressful work, I know from doing it way back in the day, and I know I'm not in the right head space to do it right now myself, either. I don't blame you for taking a break. With the holidays coming up things would probably only get messier, anyway, so take all the time you need.

I remain a big fan of you and the things you do. Moogle

Zanther · **10-27-2015, 01:39 AM**

Yes, I've enjoyed the two events I was able to participate in. Its too bad you are taking a break from this, since its one of the few ways I'm able to try and rp with others in a different envirement not surrounded by tons of others trying to rp as well.

Do hope you will take up the task again next year.

Aerius Gremory · **10-27-2015, 02:14 AM**

Hello... I'm rather new to the Roleplaying portion of FF14(Though i know perfectly well how to RP). I've been mostly going to the Quicksand in Ul 'Dah to meet people but not having much luck since i feel like the only one who doesn't know anyone there. I'd like to be part of the next blind meeting if possible please... i've noticed I missed the one that was on the 25th.

Melodia · **10-27-2015, 07:29 AM**

(10-26-2015, 01:27 PM)RiniKett Wrote: Ilwe'ran, I can honestly say that, from reading your thoughts and words, I am with a heavy heart at the thought that you feel, in a way, unappreciated for the time and work that you put into hosting this event.

But I didn't start writing to pity you, but to encourage you. It is true that some people will grip, moan, and complain about every little detail, but they aren't everyone. I personally really enjoyed the event and I've met someone that I will most likely continue to roleplay with for a very long time. I think that even us, the ones that did show up, owe you a great deal of thanks and we should voice that more often. It is far too common for people to enjoy an event and then say nothing about it and while I don't believe we are wrong for not saying something I still believe that we should give credit where it is due; it's the least we can do. I've been there and I know how discouraging it is, but if only one good thing comes out of it you have still affected two people's lives with positivity. I created Wayfarers based on this thought. I don't expect it to be anything large or important, but if I can help a handful of people then it's more than doing nothing. We need people like you to do these things, to bear the weight of others depending on you and you handled it very well and professionally.

All in all, after all my ramblings, I just want to say thank you for a wonderful event. I'll be looking forward to your next one once you take a well deserved break. Take care, and I hope that this provides at least a little bit of hope and fulfillment to your day.

Everything I wanted to say was said here. *Hugs* You did great Ilwe. Smile

Garalona · **10-27-2015, 08:17 AM**

(10-27-2015, 02:14 AM)Aerius Gremory Wrote: Hello... I'm rather new to the Roleplaying portion of FF14(Though i know perfectly well how to RP). I've been mostly going to the Quicksand in Ul 'Dah to meet people but not having much luck since i feel like the only one who doesn't know anyone there. I'd like to be part of the next blind meeting if possible please... i've noticed I missed the one that was on the 25th.

I'm afraid there won't be another one of these events for a while. The host is taking a break.

SicketySix · **10-27-2015, 09:34 AM**

Man that's sad to hear, though I totally get it.
I've wanted to attend this for quite awhile but the times just didn't line up.
Seemed like it would be boatloads of fun.

And though this may be RP, you're still dealing with real people behind these characters. Not everyone is considerate, or thankful, or reliable. It's just the way human nature has evolved I guess. Shameful.

Anyways.....
Thanks for adding to the RP community as much as you did. Thumbsup

Ilwe'ran · **10-28-2015, 02:56 AM**

Hop,

Coming back here to answer. First of all thank you for all your message and encouragements. I'm ok, I'm just lacking of ideas of how to fix the problems I encountered while organizing those events as the main problem is not something I can fix as it's related to the participants' behavior. I believe that I'll be back at it or some other stuff helping people to meet in small groups once I'll have more free time and my motivation back =3 .
Fact is I actually did expect this sort of situation to happen, mostly because I saw it happening quite a bunch of time since I'm RPing and organizing events / encounters / plots (aka since around 15 years now). Human nature being as it is, it's unlikely to change, so better just taking a break now, having fun with my own plot and meeting new people myself (as I actually never participated to those blind meeting ,) ) rather than fully burning out and never coming back at it.

@Aerius Gremory : You're not the only one not knowing much people and you're not the only one feeling odd going to the Quicksand and not managing to talk to people there.
Fact is the Quicksand asks a certain mindset not everybody and not every character fits too. You need to be ongoing and somehow to "shout" the louder to be noticed and be able to find some RP there.
It's somehow a rule for every events where there are a lot of people. Aside the fact you have to face the wall of text constantly scrolling which can become quite stressful after some time, you also have to deal with people who came in group to participate together to the event or to face the fact that your emote / say will be lost in the wall of text and not being noticed.
I encourage you to try some events where there aren't too many people going which are the best to meet some other RPer. Make sure you pm the person you would like to RP with to be certain they noticed you, if there are a bunch of people around and you're not comfortable with the text scrolling, offer your RP partner to form a party and to RP there.
I hear you when you say you have some problems to break onto the community and to find some RP, but I'm pretty sure that the main problem when it comes to that is not related to people, but actually to the game system not allowing to have some bubble showing that your character is speaking or something of that sort. It's fairly easy to miss one or two sentences in the middle of the chat mess and I'm 100% sure that every single roleplayer in big events or crowded places like the Quicksand are scrutinizing the chat to not miss their RP partner's sentence and not reading anything else than that unless pmed and asked directly for RP.

Thank you for your nice words guys, don't worry I'm not going to disappear, I'll do some other stuff at time, and at worse you'll see me roaming around during the Xmas time as I tend to just give some Xmas hat to every people crossing my pass when I have 5mn to do so ,) .

PS : You can also pm me in game or on tumblr and even here even though I don't come that often on the RPC, I promise I don't bite most of time =3 .

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