(10-18-2016, 12:05 PM)AlionLucada Wrote:(10-18-2016, 11:46 AM)Kilieit Wrote: I've been roleplaying since I was four, and online for over 10 years now.
I know what a ""special snowflake"" is supposed to be.
I just think the term is completely useless. It doesn't describe a useful problem with an actual solution. It describes something that's easy to stigmatise so other people can feel better about themselves by putting others down.
Have my rant on Mary Sues and Darlings. I understand the problem you're trying to describe. I just don't think ""special snowflake"" is a clever, kind, useful, or in any way good way to talk about it - it's diluted so much so that it's meaningless, over-applied and under-defined to the extent that it's essentially become a bullying tool.
There is no solution, and it doesn't matter how long you've been RPing. There will always be people who are lazy when it comes to their characters are are willing step outside lore boundaries to be unique.
I stated how long I've been roleplaying because I don't appreciate being talked down to by people who assume I don't know what I'm talking about just because I don't agree with them.
If there's no solution, then there's absolutely no reason to point it out. Ergo: term is useless, stigmatised, mean.
Personally, I'm a little more faithful in people's ability to understand a problem when it's explained to them adequately and kindly. If a particular character trait is killing the tension in the story, preventing other people's character development, introducing an excessive amount of OOC discomfort in other players, et cetera, and the person asks why they aren't getting much/any roleplay, then I think there are ways of holding the conversation that result in a positive change.
I don't think calling anyone a "special snowflake" or a "Mary Sue" or anything along those lines has any place in that discussion. It's unsolicited, it's the very definition of name-calling (applying labels that the person didn't ask for and doesn't like), it comes with a long history of those terms being used for ganging up on people and excluding them - sometimes (I'd go as far as to say often) unfairly.
I hate both terms. For, I think, good reasons.
ETA: In accordance with modhat, this will be my last post on this subtopic. I've stated my case. I stand by it.