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(09-26-2014, 10:00 AM)Roswyn Wrote:(09-26-2014, 08:58 AM)Gaspard Wrote: Which brings me to another point; Â I've noticed that there's 'aloooooooooooot' of Gossiping going around players. People being shunned for their characters IC actions out of OOC reactions. "You char insulted my char! I don't want to play with you anymore!" Is one such example. Also, it seems everyone knows what IC/OOC, no bleed through etc mean, and yet there's still a big amount of roleplayers who, while they know how to write and play their role, do not know how to seperate themselves from their fictive character. A certain degree of attachment is okay, since your character is a piece of work you've created, but some people take it really too far. Dare to upset another player through playing a character that isn't as sociable and friendly as the rest, And suddenly you find yourself in a gossip circle where your name gets mentioned in a very negative light. And that being your OOC name. I've never yet heard someone say 'his character is an asshole', when it comes to IC handlings. I only hear people go 'The player is an asshole, his character did A;B;C'. This I say firsthand, happen to various people, Which would lead back to that 'missunderstood' point Faye raised.
I can echo this wholeheartedly.
For example, Roswyn is pretty icy to most right off the bat and people automatically assume that extends to me when it really doesn't. If you've ever had me in a linkshell, gotten a message or rep from me you know I'm plenty nice. Yet, when Roswyn says things or takes actions in game I've seen people get very upset about it.
I've even had people comment that I should disclaimer myself as "Mean Char - Nice OOC!" And I just...I facepalm a little and I ask "Are we roleplaying here or not?" I could be the Abominable Snowman OOCly and if you're letting it affect your desires to roleplay with people and shunning them out of things that's a little...unprofessional in my humble opinion.
I've seen this on the other end too. People have told me "Oh, don't RP with "xxx" because his character is a "xxxx"." My reaction to this is the following:
"Well, Roswyn doesn't know this guy at all and has zero reasons to shun someone that harshly right off the bat. If there are IC consequences then I'll play those out."
It could be possible that your character might leave if mine came in because of a comment she made. But if you're actively thinking or saying that someone is a bad person or player OOCly for actions that took place ICly you're doing it wrong. This mindset basically shoehorns and ensures that everyone will play very politically correct and non boat-rocking characters because of fear of being excluded.
...And that would be lame and boring as hell.
I've been RPing for about 15 years now if I remember correctly. (Old UO times yay!)
When I was still young I had the same mindset and looking back at it I'm quite ashamed of it. I think one of the main problems why this happens is the fact that a lot of people see their character as their own precious creation. (which I do too btw.)
The bad thing about it is that some people become obsessed over it and if their character gets hurt, insulted or some similiar "mean" treatment happens to them they will take it personally. Think of it as someone insulting your kid/girlfriend/mom/whatever.
It sounds crazy but a lot of people tick that way.
Apart from trying to talk to them and trying to tell them not to take it personally there's unfortunately not a lot you can do about it. During the time I reacted like that I learned the hard way that I was in the wrong, since a lot of people stopped RPing with me during that time. But looking back at it I'm glad for it. It made me realize that Villains and/or seemingly cold people are just as important for RP as the "good guys" to keep it interesting.