Communication, communication, communication.Â
That'really all you can do to combat the IC and OOC bleed.Â
I can't really speak for the member that wanted you to pay gil for the RP, that just seems in poor taste and one that may not 'get the point'.
But as to the bleed, Â as it's been said before me, people have an emotional connection with the characters they create. While most of us try to keep a healthy level of separation there, immersion draws people in sometimes. It can gasp the good minds of even the most veteran of roleplayers.
It can be hard role-playing an obnoxiously opionionated character,  or a charactionst tends to write people off or "empty their give a fuck pockets" (I love that,  I'm stealing it!  ) with little rational to most others reasons for doing so. People can easily grow tired of dealing with the constant rejection IC and choose to pull their characters away from that character's pissy-ness. That is okay! Perfectly rational response,  we do it all the time IRL. However if you had any sort of relationship outside of the characters (you are guildmates/ friends/ have other character involvement with each other) and that starts to falter then we have a bleed and need some bandaids stat!Â
Everyone has been there a time or two, your character is knees deep in some emotional saga, perhaps your toon is finding themselves on the short end of the stick, no one seems to like them, their wife left them took the dog, took the house, and little ole Granny Toon just bit the big one. That sucks. As a puppeteer you're going to get some heartstring tugs, it happens. I bow to you if it doesn't.
So what can we do?
As someone that plays those 'fly off the handle/ emotional wreck' characters, I often times try to out of my way to crank up the friendliness OOC. I have a paranoia that people will take what my character's actions OOC, experience has taught me this will happen so lay on those friendly  OOC ties.
"Man... Andy is a bitch sometime!  YOURCHARACTER handled her better than most! Kudos! Can't wait to see what happens when the meet up next time!"))
"Emotionally draining RP FTL! Let's go blow stuff up in Hauke Manor!"))
What about the person feeling put off?Â
First, try to remember character != player.Â
Second, stick it out! This interaction could really lead to some heavy character development for both characters!Â
Ask questions! Talk!Â
"Heh well, my character is a bit put off. Not sure she'll be running to have tea with Andy again any time soon! "))
"Ah! I hope she does, Andy will warm up she just needs a bit of poking! hah, but if YOURCHARACTER isn't the type to stay around and poke, it's understandable." ))
Not every character is going to mesh, despite how amazing the player is behind the character. Though I encourage people to give everyone a few chances before writing people off ICly or OOC!
In the end, be true to your character and don't be afraid to get clarification! Â Most of us are adults, act like it and communicate with each other!Â
Note: I've been working on this post on a cell phone since 7am... I know it'll be very "late to the party" as I haven't been able to read or catch up on the thread! Stupid job! GAH!
That'really all you can do to combat the IC and OOC bleed.Â
I can't really speak for the member that wanted you to pay gil for the RP, that just seems in poor taste and one that may not 'get the point'.
But as to the bleed, Â as it's been said before me, people have an emotional connection with the characters they create. While most of us try to keep a healthy level of separation there, immersion draws people in sometimes. It can gasp the good minds of even the most veteran of roleplayers.
It can be hard role-playing an obnoxiously opionionated character,  or a charactionst tends to write people off or "empty their give a fuck pockets" (I love that,  I'm stealing it!  ) with little rational to most others reasons for doing so. People can easily grow tired of dealing with the constant rejection IC and choose to pull their characters away from that character's pissy-ness. That is okay! Perfectly rational response,  we do it all the time IRL. However if you had any sort of relationship outside of the characters (you are guildmates/ friends/ have other character involvement with each other) and that starts to falter then we have a bleed and need some bandaids stat!Â
Everyone has been there a time or two, your character is knees deep in some emotional saga, perhaps your toon is finding themselves on the short end of the stick, no one seems to like them, their wife left them took the dog, took the house, and little ole Granny Toon just bit the big one. That sucks. As a puppeteer you're going to get some heartstring tugs, it happens. I bow to you if it doesn't.
So what can we do?
As someone that plays those 'fly off the handle/ emotional wreck' characters, I often times try to out of my way to crank up the friendliness OOC. I have a paranoia that people will take what my character's actions OOC, experience has taught me this will happen so lay on those friendly  OOC ties.
"Man... Andy is a bitch sometime!  YOURCHARACTER handled her better than most! Kudos! Can't wait to see what happens when the meet up next time!"))
"Emotionally draining RP FTL! Let's go blow stuff up in Hauke Manor!"))
What about the person feeling put off?Â
First, try to remember character != player.Â
Second, stick it out! This interaction could really lead to some heavy character development for both characters!Â
Ask questions! Talk!Â
"Heh well, my character is a bit put off. Not sure she'll be running to have tea with Andy again any time soon! "))
"Ah! I hope she does, Andy will warm up she just needs a bit of poking! hah, but if YOURCHARACTER isn't the type to stay around and poke, it's understandable." ))
Not every character is going to mesh, despite how amazing the player is behind the character. Though I encourage people to give everyone a few chances before writing people off ICly or OOC!
In the end, be true to your character and don't be afraid to get clarification! Â Most of us are adults, act like it and communicate with each other!Â
Note: I've been working on this post on a cell phone since 7am... I know it'll be very "late to the party" as I haven't been able to read or catch up on the thread! Stupid job! GAH!
