(10-01-2014, 06:07 PM)Aldotsk Wrote: All I am saying is that if someone asks you to OOCly (if it gets to that point) to stop, it usually means something. It's not a hint, or it's not an evasive maneuver. It means -stop- literally. Party/Private chats are perfectly fine. But we as players should also learn to accommodate for others if we have to. We -aren't- obligated, since the other people can just blacklist us, but that's not what we want within our group of friends.Sadly douchebaggery is going to be every where. I tend to avoid blacklisting when I can. I've only blacklisted two RPers in this game, and both were because of OOC reasons and that those people had made me uncomfortable enough as people that I didn't even want to deal with their characters.
Sometimes, OOC talk is necessary if you feel disturbed, or annoyed or frustrated about something. Chances are that IC character's personality is not exactly same as OOC player's personality.
Like I can be extremely psychopath deranged killer ICly and keep harassing homeless PCs and these homeless IC characters can OOCly think I am that much of a jerk OOCly by ignoring me completely. But OOCly, I could be just a nice guy trying to play as a complete opposite character to my actual persona.Â
I've had many OOC PMs about people talking to me that they don't want a tension between me and him/her OOCly, and I understand it completely and that RP is RP and OOC is OOC. Should there be a problem, then there is a PM to talk it out.
There are some -people- who'd just be a douche by ICly and OOCly being obnoxious and griefing. So there are -those- kind of people and those are people that you just blacklist and move on. If they keep stalking you, then report them.
Some of this goes back to what I said in an earlier post where communication can be sooooo darn important. It also can help loosely judge how a person handles certain things with RP if you drop them a line like 'Oh wow, I wonder how these interractions go! Our characters are so different!' during the IC bits and see how they respond. Sometimes you can be surprised what basic psychology can do to help gauge a player.
I've helped dodge some red flags in the earlier stages of RP by briefly poking at the player and being friendly. The example I'll use (which is honestly my only real cautionary point that I'm not willing to bend on) is when a player keeps referring to the character as if it were them. "Wow, your character was a bitch to me!" or something along those lines. I'll stop, drum my fingertips atop my desk, and think on how to handle that. Are they a new RPer? Do they realize that that kind of phrasing can give the wrong impression? Should I tell them or will I just sound like a bitch? Should I wait it out and see?
Or the question that crosses my mind on a normal basis: "Am I just over thinking things?"
