(10-01-2014, 03:41 PM)Jana Wrote: I think there's a distinction to be made between RPers who are okay with ERPing, ERPers, and those just looking to cyber. But that's a discussion for another thread.
That. So much that.
I don't see the point in shaming those who ERP or saying "ERP shouldn't exist." Replace ERP with "have sex" and it's much clearer how silly saying things like "I hate people who ERP" or "people shouldn't ERP" sounds. Most of us RP adult characters, and adult characters often end up in adult situations. Some of us fade to black, and some ERP, and neither choice is holier than the other. If anyone chooses not to ERP that's great! But it doesn't mean they need to tell others they can't/shouldn't ERP.
 There are those who never ERP at all or perhaps never even have characters in intimate situations, and that's super! There are those who RP and are okay with ERP if sex happens to come up in the storyline (myself being one of these, though certain OOC stipulations still have to be met otherwise I'd rather just fade to black) and if everyone OOC is a consenting adult and it's in private, that's super! There are those who RP solely for the sake of ERP and design their characters around their fetishes, and if everyone OOC is a consenting adult and it's in private, that's super! And then there are always who are just looking to cyber and ERP is a quick and easy way for them to accomplish that, and--guess what--if everyone OOC is a consenting adult and it's in private, that's super! As with most things in life, live and let be, and if you don't like something, don't do it. @Aldotsk, It's not fair to villainize anyone who ERPs just because an ERPer may have tried to force unsolicited ERP on you. That's not an ERPer, that's just a jerk ass, and there are plenty of those who don't ERP.
To try to bring this full circle back to the initial post of blurring IC/OOC and expand on what I meant in the parentheses in the above paragraph... I rarely ERP as I'm very careful/picky about who I'd ever ERP with should it arise in the RP (which it usually doesn't lol). I've had characters in romantic relationships where the other RPer has gotten a little too clingy/possessive/amorous OOC more than once, and I can only imagine how much worse it would be if sex had been in the equation. As such, I find it a good practice to communicate with the other RPer OOC extensively and spend enough time with them to learn if they'd likely be the type to bleed through.
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