(10-02-2014, 12:04 AM)allgivenover Wrote: I will never tire of how amusing that disparity is. Violence, thievery, torture, kidnapping, and even rape-as-backstory is fine and never illicits the same amount of judgement and disgust as ERP. It's fine if you don't want to engage, but try not to be on a highhorse about it.Yuuuuup.
It's one thing to just not be interested in it, but, well, quite frankly being disgusted by it speaks to some pretty deep-seated issues and some possibly unhealthy attitudes about sex in general. I mean... people fug. In fact, people fug a lot. Some people do it every day, and not always with the same person. That's just a fact of life. As far as I'm concerned, if no one's getting hurt, there's really nothing objectionable about it.
I can't even begin to imagine how to run someone with such a strong attitude about sex through therapy, so I won't even try, but I would really strongly suggest anyone with such attitudes to think deeply on why they feel the way they do, at the very least. It's not cool to call other people disgusting just for doing something that comes naturally to them.
And speaking more to the topic, I will personally refrain from taking myself and my character into any intimately personal relationships as a matter of principle. It's nothing personal. I just got burned by such relationships in the past and would rather protect myself than put myself through that kind of emotional turmoil again. If I ever do engage in ERP it's going to be of the one-night stand variety, and I hope no one takes that personally (if you do, I'm sorry).