I just really crack up whenever someone goes into "omg eww ERP?! Â *mega-blushu*" Â I'm not going to lie, ahaha. Â I mean if you're grossed out it's cool, do you. Â But I hope people aren't knocking ERP without knowing anything about it (not referring to the OP here, referring to in-game exchanges), because that's the same as knocking someone's IRL lifestyle without knowing anything about it. Â That's not cool.
I had never ERP'd in this game or any other before, so I hit up some ERPers and just asked them questions on etiquette and the like, has been very interesting to learn. Â I've contemplated getting into it for the sole fact of honing my writing as a craft (which is what, I assume, most are RPing for in the first place) and because sexuality and gender are topics of interest to me.
And I agree with Jana's clause about the creepers; do not feel guilty explaining that they need to stop or blacklisting them! Â I treat most of these as a chance to help someone learn about boundaries, but there comes a point where you just blacklist. Â If any person just asked me "hey, I really love your character/her personality, maybe they could be an item? Â =3c", I'd be receptive to that. Â But "yo sexy *buttslap*" is NOT okay.
There's always going to be that someone who doesn't understand boundaries, or doesn't care to (and shame on that person who just doesn't give a shit about others). Â And there's always going to be that person who makes a mockery of something you love and are into, and shame on that person too.
I guess my personal opinion/advice on all of this is the same as many others here - ASK FIRST! Â Be clear, honest, and up-front with what you are looking for, and ask nicely. Â If they're not into it, that's their choice. Â If someone asks YOU nicely, be respectful of their lifestyle and decline fairly.
Communication is key in all of life. Â <3
I had never ERP'd in this game or any other before, so I hit up some ERPers and just asked them questions on etiquette and the like, has been very interesting to learn. Â I've contemplated getting into it for the sole fact of honing my writing as a craft (which is what, I assume, most are RPing for in the first place) and because sexuality and gender are topics of interest to me.
And I agree with Jana's clause about the creepers; do not feel guilty explaining that they need to stop or blacklisting them! Â I treat most of these as a chance to help someone learn about boundaries, but there comes a point where you just blacklist. Â If any person just asked me "hey, I really love your character/her personality, maybe they could be an item? Â =3c", I'd be receptive to that. Â But "yo sexy *buttslap*" is NOT okay.
There's always going to be that someone who doesn't understand boundaries, or doesn't care to (and shame on that person who just doesn't give a shit about others). Â And there's always going to be that person who makes a mockery of something you love and are into, and shame on that person too.
I guess my personal opinion/advice on all of this is the same as many others here - ASK FIRST! Â Be clear, honest, and up-front with what you are looking for, and ask nicely. Â If they're not into it, that's their choice. Â If someone asks YOU nicely, be respectful of their lifestyle and decline fairly.
Communication is key in all of life. Â <3
