The actual act of sex doesn't come up too often at all in my RP as romance RP is not a huge priority for me. (Give me all the epic battles, bitter rivalries, and save-the-world quests, pls.) With Romance RP itself, I like it to be a source of conflict as opposed to only being about the warm fuzzies. Conflict is the driver of any good story, so it is simply much more fun for me to RP out all the tension, confusion, and coiled undefined feelings of attraction or a love that can't actually happen than it is for me to RP out a traditional romantic relationship where everything is going swimmingly.
In terms of my characters -- Tiergan is pansexual, but he prefers women slightly more than he does men.
His history is very violent and full of unhealthy relationships both intimate and not. His last major romantic relationship in the past ended with the death of his lover and the sense that he catastrophically failed to protect the woman he loved. He badly hurt the last two people he attempted to romance in current times in ways that ended the courtship and largely sees the failed relationships as being a direct result of the kind of unpleasant person his life experiences have forged him into.
This, along the death of the previously mentioned lover, makes him incredibly skittish of romancing anyone. He responds very poorly when someone makes advances upon him unless it is extremely clear that it is simply a casual, light, friendly encounter that is not intended to be taken to another level. He sees casual intimacy amongst close friends as normal because of his history, but never, ever initiates (mostly because he knows it is not 'normal' for the rest of society.)
His current 'lover' (and he'll refuse to call Zaius that with his very last breath) is someone Tiergan goes back to time and time again for two reasons: 1) They have a great deal of history together and have had many of the same life experiences. This makes Tiergan confident that he couldn't possibly harm Zaius, no matter what he really does. Nothing has to be held back.
2) Tiergan has never won a fight against the other miqo'te. While it is part of what infuriates him about Zaius and has been one of the many drivers of an old conflict between them, it is also what makes Tiergan confident that Zaius will never need any kind of protection from anyone.
Lurial is pansexual like Tiergan, but trying to become her lover is like trying to break into Fort Knox dressed in neon yellow with blaring sirens strapped to your back and a sign that says "AH'M IN YO' BASE. KILLIN' YO MANS." She might engage in a casual fling here or there, but is wary of manipulation due to her job (information broker!) and her past history. Thus, she has no problem with the idea of simply not having a lover ever. Sex and romance just never come up in my RP with her unless someone brings it up first.
Furious Storm is largely heterosexual, but has looked at men who are pretty enough to look like women with very confused feelings that eventually settle into a form of "I like what I like" acceptance. Sex never really comes up in his RP either and it's probably because, he's on the older side of the spectrum (45) and thus feels like a huge, gross creeper when catching himself thinking anything remotely sexy about people who are in in their mid-twenties or younger. 99% of the time, if he's acting friendly and sweet on a woman, he's proooobably trying to act more like their big jolly protective uncle as opposed to their big, jolly, date-material.
Leilani Leilai is 15 and a minor and thus there will be no sex involved with her RP EVER. The most she'll ever have are cute unrealistic crushes on super tall people that are way, way older than her that I OOCly know will never come to pass, because they're supposed to just be cute unrealistic crushes that will never come to pass.
In terms of my characters -- Tiergan is pansexual, but he prefers women slightly more than he does men.
His history is very violent and full of unhealthy relationships both intimate and not. His last major romantic relationship in the past ended with the death of his lover and the sense that he catastrophically failed to protect the woman he loved. He badly hurt the last two people he attempted to romance in current times in ways that ended the courtship and largely sees the failed relationships as being a direct result of the kind of unpleasant person his life experiences have forged him into.
This, along the death of the previously mentioned lover, makes him incredibly skittish of romancing anyone. He responds very poorly when someone makes advances upon him unless it is extremely clear that it is simply a casual, light, friendly encounter that is not intended to be taken to another level. He sees casual intimacy amongst close friends as normal because of his history, but never, ever initiates (mostly because he knows it is not 'normal' for the rest of society.)
His current 'lover' (and he'll refuse to call Zaius that with his very last breath) is someone Tiergan goes back to time and time again for two reasons: 1) They have a great deal of history together and have had many of the same life experiences. This makes Tiergan confident that he couldn't possibly harm Zaius, no matter what he really does. Nothing has to be held back.
2) Tiergan has never won a fight against the other miqo'te. While it is part of what infuriates him about Zaius and has been one of the many drivers of an old conflict between them, it is also what makes Tiergan confident that Zaius will never need any kind of protection from anyone.
Lurial is pansexual like Tiergan, but trying to become her lover is like trying to break into Fort Knox dressed in neon yellow with blaring sirens strapped to your back and a sign that says "AH'M IN YO' BASE. KILLIN' YO MANS." She might engage in a casual fling here or there, but is wary of manipulation due to her job (information broker!) and her past history. Thus, she has no problem with the idea of simply not having a lover ever. Sex and romance just never come up in my RP with her unless someone brings it up first.
Furious Storm is largely heterosexual, but has looked at men who are pretty enough to look like women with very confused feelings that eventually settle into a form of "I like what I like" acceptance. Sex never really comes up in his RP either and it's probably because, he's on the older side of the spectrum (45) and thus feels like a huge, gross creeper when catching himself thinking anything remotely sexy about people who are in in their mid-twenties or younger. 99% of the time, if he's acting friendly and sweet on a woman, he's proooobably trying to act more like their big jolly protective uncle as opposed to their big, jolly, date-material.
Leilani Leilai is 15 and a minor and thus there will be no sex involved with her RP EVER. The most she'll ever have are cute unrealistic crushes on super tall people that are way, way older than her that I OOCly know will never come to pass, because they're supposed to just be cute unrealistic crushes that will never come to pass.
