(12-02-2014, 01:45 PM)Melodia Wrote: Thank you for your input all.
I...think some of this thread actually made me more depressed, if that's possible? @_@
I think a lot of people wind up with social acquaintances over friends, especially online where there are so many people. I'm an introvert. Too much social interaction wears me out; it's why I actively avoid making new friends in person (social contacts, yes. Actual friend-friends, no) -- I can barely give the few I have quality time, so why want more?
It's the same in game. If people have a lot of social interactions, chances are most of them won't be friends-friends; simply put, their attention will be too spread out to focus enough on more than a select few. And in that vein, they probably mean well, but ... are just too spread out. Especially if there's multiple things they want to do; I've been known to forget about things I said I was going to do, particularly if I thought (for some reason) that I was waiting on the other person for something. Ooops. Your best bet is open communication.
But, I dunno, to me -- I don't make many friends online, for the same reason I don't make friends in person. Yes, I like a wide number of people and yes, I always try to be available if someone needs a sympathetic ear, but until you know the names of some of the people important to me in person, my name, and I know your name and some of your important people and other details about your life -- until I'm actively engaging you in communication outside of the game and checking up on you every so often -- I don't consider us friends. Doesn't mean I don't regard people positively or would be adverse to becoming friends, but to me there are many social levels between someone I just met and someone I'll set my personal time aside for when things go south for the other person.
That said, <3s and hugs.
edit - to clarify, perhaps some of it is that the type of friends you want to be and the type of friends/acquaintances the other party/ies want to be are two separate things.
BUT I'M YOUR FRIEND SO THAT COUNTS FOR SOMETHING RIGHT?!
