Deep breaths. As Cassandra said, talking is the first step. Tackling big problems all at once is never a good idea; break it down from easiest to manage to most difficult. If they are significant, chances are you're going to have to search for aid options (possibly more than you may have already done) -- in which case your best bet is to find a friendly, experienced worker who you can sweet talk/schmooze into doing more than just telling you 'I'm sorry, we can't ___'. Generally speaking, there's usually a little more such workers can do, but digging deep into their resources for every person who crosses their threshold burns them out, longterm, so you have to be that special person they're willing to go above and beyond for.
But most of all, deep breaths. Write out the things you need to do, or the problems you need to work out, and break them down into smaller pieces. Once you do that, sometimes it feels much more manageable (not everything works for everyone, of course, but feeling like you're doing something is better than doing nothing). Most of all, watch how you think and talk about your problems. Saying things like 'but I can't' or 'there's nothing else I can do' is a self fulfilling prophesy. And I know that yeah, sometimes you do feel like you've hit rock bottom and you're totally and completely stuck -- but it is extremely rare for that to actually be the case. More often than not, it's the feeling of solitude and helplessness that makes people feel that way. So, again, as Cassandra said, share the burden. Sometimes just having one or two other people helping you compile resources and handle problems can make a world of difference.
You can do this. Keep trying. Don't give up.
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But most of all, deep breaths. Write out the things you need to do, or the problems you need to work out, and break them down into smaller pieces. Once you do that, sometimes it feels much more manageable (not everything works for everyone, of course, but feeling like you're doing something is better than doing nothing). Most of all, watch how you think and talk about your problems. Saying things like 'but I can't' or 'there's nothing else I can do' is a self fulfilling prophesy. And I know that yeah, sometimes you do feel like you've hit rock bottom and you're totally and completely stuck -- but it is extremely rare for that to actually be the case. More often than not, it's the feeling of solitude and helplessness that makes people feel that way. So, again, as Cassandra said, share the burden. Sometimes just having one or two other people helping you compile resources and handle problems can make a world of difference.
You can do this. Keep trying. Don't give up.
<3
