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(12-20-2014, 11:27 AM)Yhen Yizeh Wrote: Ever since playing here, I've been bullied and put aside as an outcast. No one seems to be on my side.ÂThe moment you feel the overwhelming desire to post a thread talking about how you feel victimized is the moment your feelings on the matter are invalidated. Having a victim complex is never attractive, and a thread of this nature only helps reinforce whatever negative connotations some people might already associate with your name.
I don't really know what this post is going to accomplish. I hope that people will be sympathetic towards me and maybe others stop being so mean, because I do take all of it to heart and it hurts. ):
If you have a reputation you dislike. Change it. Don't whine about it. Do something. Grow some empathy. A bad reputation is not changed by telling people that the way they feel about you is wrong. It's changed by proving them wrong by being a better person than the one they describe.
It is literally that easy! If someone says, "Wow, that comment you made is rude," you can never make that comment again! Suddenly you're less rude. If people are taking the time to point out your flaws, don't get angry. They're 100% giving you guidelines on how to stop being a person they dislike.
That's not to say that you should change for other people -- of course not. But if you dislike what people are saying about you to the point where it's bothering you then they are not the problem.
It sucks feeling like you're an outcast or like you're being bullied. It really does. So if you're the type of person that wants people to like them, sometimes that takes actual work.
So my advice; advice from a total and complete stranger that has only heard whispers about you as an individual?
Be kind. Have empathy. Don't say everything that's on your mind. Don't even type everything that's on your mind. Focus on the people that make you happy instead of focusing on how other people make you unhappy.