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If there's a way to get some elaboration on this without going into too much detail advice would probably be a little more helpful.
I'll try some things though.
Was this a specific problem? Did an event happen that caused a lot of drama that made you feel like no one was on your side? If so, communication is always important. Everything is over if people refuse to talk to each other, and if you want to clear up anything with those people, it's important to keep the line of communication open. Send them a message "Hey, is it okay if we talk sometime, I want to understand what the problem is." if THEY decide not to engage, then that's not on you. As long as you let them know you were willing to talk about fix the problem, then that's all you can do.
Was there no event and you feel like the community is just ostracizing you? To be frank 90% of the time people think this, it's all in their head. People pull away for a multitude of reasons - haven't been on the game much, got quiet because drama happened and the aftermath is always awkward, They stop rping so much and coming back to rp is awkward, Their closest friends quit, etc etc. When it looks like you're pulling back, people tend to let you do it BECAUSE - get this - they think you're trying to pull away from THEM. So they get awkward and uncomfortable and you're already awkward so know one asks anyone to do anything and one side is going "No one likes me anymore" while the other side is going "They never want to do anything anymore, they just sit in their corner." The best thing you can do here is -- get over it. Just jump in. We've all felt like our friends were ostracizing us at some point or another, but it's mostly our own insecurities. And just like above, something you can easily talk about.
Have you taken a step back and looked at the problem objectively? Even if you're wronged in a situation, or at the very least feel like you were wronged, no one is 100% innocent. If something bad happened to someone, People tend to lash out at the people wronged them. It's normal. But THOSE people have friends, and THOSE friends may not be as sympathetic to you. Have you looked at the situation objectively and pinpointed what might have made people mad at you? Obviously, there's something - since you said no one was on your side. It would be a big something, it could be a small something (Depends on how sensitive people are). If you are positive you are 100% wronged here and not the wrong do-er this is probably the case.
COMMUNICATION.
There are many people in the world who don't like confrontation. Who believe that fixing a problem is a lot harder than just cutting off all communication entirely. Running into these people can be frustrating. You only did one thing wrong, why are they so quick to dismiss you? You're supposed to be friends, why can't you talk it out?
The answer is "Because." There is no real answer, it's just how some people are built. They only like good, good positive emotions and anything bad that happens they run from. You can't prevent this, so don't be afraid of this.
Communication is key. Talking to the involved parties is pretty much THE ONLY way to make sure to fix the problem with them. It's scary, but don't be afraid to ASK to talk it out. If you aren't comfortable with asking yourself, you can have an friend of yours who's still on good terms go to them and say "Hey, she wants to talk this out, do you thing that would be okay?"
Don't be afraid to try to fix something YOU WANT FIXED. It isn't going to magically fix itself. They are not going to see this thread and come to you.
That being said, if they do speak to you. Try not to speak with anger. Be humble. Understand what you did that may have hurt them and explain what they did that hurt you. Stay calm. Keep repeating what the actual issue is if they keep trying to veer off track. Make sure they understand. Make sure YOU understand them.
And after this long ass talk, both parties need to let it go.
I hope I did something XD
I'll try some things though.
Was this a specific problem? Did an event happen that caused a lot of drama that made you feel like no one was on your side? If so, communication is always important. Everything is over if people refuse to talk to each other, and if you want to clear up anything with those people, it's important to keep the line of communication open. Send them a message "Hey, is it okay if we talk sometime, I want to understand what the problem is." if THEY decide not to engage, then that's not on you. As long as you let them know you were willing to talk about fix the problem, then that's all you can do.
Was there no event and you feel like the community is just ostracizing you? To be frank 90% of the time people think this, it's all in their head. People pull away for a multitude of reasons - haven't been on the game much, got quiet because drama happened and the aftermath is always awkward, They stop rping so much and coming back to rp is awkward, Their closest friends quit, etc etc. When it looks like you're pulling back, people tend to let you do it BECAUSE - get this - they think you're trying to pull away from THEM. So they get awkward and uncomfortable and you're already awkward so know one asks anyone to do anything and one side is going "No one likes me anymore" while the other side is going "They never want to do anything anymore, they just sit in their corner." The best thing you can do here is -- get over it. Just jump in. We've all felt like our friends were ostracizing us at some point or another, but it's mostly our own insecurities. And just like above, something you can easily talk about.
Have you taken a step back and looked at the problem objectively? Even if you're wronged in a situation, or at the very least feel like you were wronged, no one is 100% innocent. If something bad happened to someone, People tend to lash out at the people wronged them. It's normal. But THOSE people have friends, and THOSE friends may not be as sympathetic to you. Have you looked at the situation objectively and pinpointed what might have made people mad at you? Obviously, there's something - since you said no one was on your side. It would be a big something, it could be a small something (Depends on how sensitive people are). If you are positive you are 100% wronged here and not the wrong do-er this is probably the case.
COMMUNICATION.
There are many people in the world who don't like confrontation. Who believe that fixing a problem is a lot harder than just cutting off all communication entirely. Running into these people can be frustrating. You only did one thing wrong, why are they so quick to dismiss you? You're supposed to be friends, why can't you talk it out?
The answer is "Because." There is no real answer, it's just how some people are built. They only like good, good positive emotions and anything bad that happens they run from. You can't prevent this, so don't be afraid of this.
Communication is key. Talking to the involved parties is pretty much THE ONLY way to make sure to fix the problem with them. It's scary, but don't be afraid to ASK to talk it out. If you aren't comfortable with asking yourself, you can have an friend of yours who's still on good terms go to them and say "Hey, she wants to talk this out, do you thing that would be okay?"
Don't be afraid to try to fix something YOU WANT FIXED. It isn't going to magically fix itself. They are not going to see this thread and come to you.
That being said, if they do speak to you. Try not to speak with anger. Be humble. Understand what you did that may have hurt them and explain what they did that hurt you. Stay calm. Keep repeating what the actual issue is if they keep trying to veer off track. Make sure they understand. Make sure YOU understand them.
And after this long ass talk, both parties need to let it go.
I hope I did something XD
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