I've had to explain this a number of times in some variant or another and will probably be dog-earring this tidbit for the wiki page which I will some day get around to updating.
Eva's views on love stem largely from her upbringing and her family's ideology. I have expressed at times that she is confused by the notion of tribal culture, multiple partners, open relationships, etc. While this isn't to say she loathes others their own preferences, she does frown upon [some of] it quietly and inwardly.
She was brought up believing in a certain sanctity existing between a man and a woman in love. These are bonds that should not ever be broken, and that was drilled into her from a young age - perhaps even more fiercely than most. The fact that her mother left her father for another man was a huge source of shame, and she witnessed firsthand what it was like to see her father sort of flounder, then eventually wither and die - arguably of a broken heart.
Love has never been something she's taken lightly. Her first real relationship came when she was in her early 20's and developed gradually over time. He proposed and they were set to be wed, but tragedy struck (as it so often does) and she was left alone. She wrestled for a long time whether it was improper for her to see another. She hadn't undergone the rites, but she had promised herself to him (they had gotten tattooed before he went away to war).
Where so much of her father's story had revolved around hanging on to old traditions and hanging onto a lover that had fled, Eva's story seems to revolve more around letting go and moving on. There were one or two minor relationships that never fully panned out before Oskar came along. And where her first real relationship blossomed slowly, her relationship with Oskar was somewhat abrupt and sudden and like a sudden inferno by contrast, though it came after a lengthy professional relationship and certain amount of mutual respect and friendship had been established.
After Oskar died Eva pretty much wrote off love entirely, having other things to worry about (namely her children). Now it may be accurate she feels a certain sense of apprehension about falling in love. There is a love interest character and they get along and it's been fun exploring this angle of a character who is twice bitten thrice shy, so to speak.
To summarize, her beliefs are very conservative. She loves with all of herself, and deeply, but her heart is typically glacially slow and overcautious around anyone who may be a potential love interest. There is a wariness, and she inadvertantly keeps people - even those who care about her - at a certain distance.
Eva's views on love stem largely from her upbringing and her family's ideology. I have expressed at times that she is confused by the notion of tribal culture, multiple partners, open relationships, etc. While this isn't to say she loathes others their own preferences, she does frown upon [some of] it quietly and inwardly.
She was brought up believing in a certain sanctity existing between a man and a woman in love. These are bonds that should not ever be broken, and that was drilled into her from a young age - perhaps even more fiercely than most. The fact that her mother left her father for another man was a huge source of shame, and she witnessed firsthand what it was like to see her father sort of flounder, then eventually wither and die - arguably of a broken heart.
Love has never been something she's taken lightly. Her first real relationship came when she was in her early 20's and developed gradually over time. He proposed and they were set to be wed, but tragedy struck (as it so often does) and she was left alone. She wrestled for a long time whether it was improper for her to see another. She hadn't undergone the rites, but she had promised herself to him (they had gotten tattooed before he went away to war).
Where so much of her father's story had revolved around hanging on to old traditions and hanging onto a lover that had fled, Eva's story seems to revolve more around letting go and moving on. There were one or two minor relationships that never fully panned out before Oskar came along. And where her first real relationship blossomed slowly, her relationship with Oskar was somewhat abrupt and sudden and like a sudden inferno by contrast, though it came after a lengthy professional relationship and certain amount of mutual respect and friendship had been established.
After Oskar died Eva pretty much wrote off love entirely, having other things to worry about (namely her children). Now it may be accurate she feels a certain sense of apprehension about falling in love. There is a love interest character and they get along and it's been fun exploring this angle of a character who is twice bitten thrice shy, so to speak.
To summarize, her beliefs are very conservative. She loves with all of herself, and deeply, but her heart is typically glacially slow and overcautious around anyone who may be a potential love interest. There is a wariness, and she inadvertantly keeps people - even those who care about her - at a certain distance.
"One of the deep secrets of life is that all that is really worth doing is what we do for others." Â ~ Lewis Carol
Eva's Journals  |  Eva's Wiki Page (coming soon)  |  RP Handbook
Eva's Journals  |  Eva's Wiki Page (coming soon)  |  RP Handbook
