(01-30-2015, 01:14 PM)Graeham Ridgefield Wrote: It's kind of alarming how many role-players cut off contact with me when they realise that I'm not willing to have Graeham jump into bed with their character within a few hours of meeting them.
I once had a character who was from a culture with very strict gender roles. Due to a choice she'd made, she'd become something of an outcast, and was stripped of her gender (I had a word for it, in a cultural sense it pretty much just meant that making babies with her was a huge no no), so she left to go wandering. But she kept those ideas, and had very rigid thoughts about what women should do (namely staying home and defending home and children and raising the children), and what men should do, and when sex should happen and when it shouldn't.
Finding people who wanted to rp with her was a very difficult task. She was short, ugly, stubborn, and prideful (any conversation with her would include the word 'honor' more than once), and it was interesting how some people who tended to stick to beautiful, elegant, sexy characters and interactions would not only avoid her, but me, as well, on an ooc level.
But then, too, there was a guy on that site I rped with who had a similar experience -- the sort of rp culture was that most female characters were encouraged to be capable in some manner, but they should also be damsels in distress during rp conflicts. He decided to make a capable female character who did not find herself in the damsel in distress role, and similarly to me found himself quickly thrust to the outskirts of rp and quasi-shunned on an ooc level. As he didn't directly state he was a man, people assumed him to also be a witty, blunt, and opinionated woman -- and from what he told me the reactions were almost universally negative, from male and female rpers alike.
Crazy, innit?
