(01-30-2015, 03:50 PM)Fai Wrote:(01-30-2015, 03:31 PM)Gegenji Wrote:(01-30-2015, 03:24 PM)Fai Wrote: But, more seriously and back on topic. K'aworu runs into the aforementioned a loooot. I don't mind eRP at all, but he isn't a real frivelous character in that department. This isn't to say he's a prude, it's just not easy, y'know? I feel like, basically, that because my character won't sleep around and do it on the drop of a hat, that my character is automatically uninteresting and won't be approached.
I like to think there's a nice bit of entertainment in the "will they or won't they?" approach, myself. I also don't really like rushing relationships either - it's so much better when you let it grow organically and have events and markers that signal how the relationship formed. Even something as being able to recall where your first date was at is a nice talking piece, even if you don't end up staying with them.
But some folks just want to get to the nitty-gritty. Which is their own choice, I suppose... as long as they don't try to force it upon others or shame them for not doing the same.
Agreed. I don't really judge if people do want to rush it and just get straight to things. I just don't really like taking that course. My main issue with any of it though is when you're like... OOCly avoided and singled out in a negative light just because you don't want to. Like you're some kind of no-fun zone.
Yeah, that pretty much sets off a number of alarm bells in my head. In my eyes, it's no different than someone shaming someone in the real world for not sleeping with them and then whining about it afterwards.
I'm already in a relationship in the real world so I don't feel obligated to desperately get my fill of action online. I do, however, appreciate what a genuine romance could bring to the table in terms of my character.
Though as with many aspects of role-play, the bulk of people I encounter simply want to skip ahead with...pretty much everything. Instead of taking the time to travel by land much of a journey is skipped in favour of instant teleportation...and when it comes to romances it seems like there's tunnel vision at play.
I also come from an MMO community where ERP is considered to be a very private affair rather than something paraded around so there's that too. I don't like the idea of my character being seen as just being an object for someone else's immediate sexual gratification.
