Most everything can be solved with a heavy dose of communication.
For me, I've ran into rps who don't want to talk ooc very much because it ruins their immersion, and if that happens I generally choose to take a step back. I am very open with my intentions, my characters feelings, or anything that needs to be spoken about and pretty much require other people be the same.
We have a person in our guild who plays a very caustic type of character, so is easily angered and quick to snap. The player, however, is really, really nice oocly, so when he is meeting someone for the first time icly, he always warns "Hey my character is a jerk." This has done a lot to help alleviate any drama that may come with his characters snippy behavior.
Also during any tense scenes, where a bunch of people are fighting or something bad is happening, I like to try to get discussion happening oocly in the ooc ls we have, to keep people from feeling the anger OOCly (Cuz that's really easy to do, lets be real). Some people don't like talking DURING a scene, which is fine but after a scene happens I like to get people to talk it out to A. blow off steam from a tense scene and B. to have a nice reminder that it's not real and we're all friends here.
Overall, I want people to discuss things that happen ICly - whether or not they agree with it - because that discussion keeps the reality of all this being pretend real. In the OOC ls we are very quick to say that we didn't agree with something a character did or thought something was a bad decision and, yes, some people have gotten really upset by this -- but we them getting mad only makes them look petty and most eventually learn not to take RP oocly.
Romance needs a lot of communication, too, and is it's probably the most important thing to have when doing an RP romance. Constant discussion of the ground rules, that this won't be taken oocly, etc etc. It's all about making your rp partner as comfortable as possible. There's a trust that comes with RP romances, a promise that this isn't real and neither side will make it real. When you say something is Okay, it actually being okay, and when something is not, you stop immediately.
Communication.
Communication
Communication.
For me, I've ran into rps who don't want to talk ooc very much because it ruins their immersion, and if that happens I generally choose to take a step back. I am very open with my intentions, my characters feelings, or anything that needs to be spoken about and pretty much require other people be the same.
We have a person in our guild who plays a very caustic type of character, so is easily angered and quick to snap. The player, however, is really, really nice oocly, so when he is meeting someone for the first time icly, he always warns "Hey my character is a jerk." This has done a lot to help alleviate any drama that may come with his characters snippy behavior.
Also during any tense scenes, where a bunch of people are fighting or something bad is happening, I like to try to get discussion happening oocly in the ooc ls we have, to keep people from feeling the anger OOCly (Cuz that's really easy to do, lets be real). Some people don't like talking DURING a scene, which is fine but after a scene happens I like to get people to talk it out to A. blow off steam from a tense scene and B. to have a nice reminder that it's not real and we're all friends here.
Overall, I want people to discuss things that happen ICly - whether or not they agree with it - because that discussion keeps the reality of all this being pretend real. In the OOC ls we are very quick to say that we didn't agree with something a character did or thought something was a bad decision and, yes, some people have gotten really upset by this -- but we them getting mad only makes them look petty and most eventually learn not to take RP oocly.
Romance needs a lot of communication, too, and is it's probably the most important thing to have when doing an RP romance. Constant discussion of the ground rules, that this won't be taken oocly, etc etc. It's all about making your rp partner as comfortable as possible. There's a trust that comes with RP romances, a promise that this isn't real and neither side will make it real. When you say something is Okay, it actually being okay, and when something is not, you stop immediately.
Communication.
Communication
Communication.
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