That wish fulfillment is such a huge problem. I understand roleplay means you can slip into any persona, and that can be enticing if you want to be popular or loved, but please for goodness sake, understand this isn't about working through your issues with real life.
Also, boys (And girls, I've seen it with them) if you're harassing a girl in order to get them to love your character or erp with you -- you are suffering from OOC bleed and need to stop rping. Right now. If you believe because the characters are in love that means the players are in love, you need to stop rping. Right now.
Honestly, it's easy to become attached to an rp relationship. It's cute and maybe the two are really good together. Attachment, in a detached way, is fine. It's trying to make it happen irl AND getting upset when people don't do what you want that ISN'T OKAY
I tend to try to become really, really good friends with my RP partners so I can talk frankly to them about things and I'm really close to Armi's current boyfriend, but despite the fact I'm engaged, despite the fact I'm 10 YEARS older than him, we STILL had that talk about OOC/IC bleed through. Never assume someone understands it, talk to them.
I agree with Teirgan. I tell my guild that we are watching a TV show, and we're all just a fandom of the show. Dicussions are okay, heated discussions are fine too, but trying to harrass other other fans into making their "favorite" character do something isn't okay. Screaming at someone for not liking their "favorite" character isn't okay. If you can't treat it like a TV show, where we are fans but there's a sort of healthy detachment, you need to take a step back.
Also, boys (And girls, I've seen it with them) if you're harassing a girl in order to get them to love your character or erp with you -- you are suffering from OOC bleed and need to stop rping. Right now. If you believe because the characters are in love that means the players are in love, you need to stop rping. Right now.
Honestly, it's easy to become attached to an rp relationship. It's cute and maybe the two are really good together. Attachment, in a detached way, is fine. It's trying to make it happen irl AND getting upset when people don't do what you want that ISN'T OKAY
I tend to try to become really, really good friends with my RP partners so I can talk frankly to them about things and I'm really close to Armi's current boyfriend, but despite the fact I'm engaged, despite the fact I'm 10 YEARS older than him, we STILL had that talk about OOC/IC bleed through. Never assume someone understands it, talk to them.
I agree with Teirgan. I tell my guild that we are watching a TV show, and we're all just a fandom of the show. Dicussions are okay, heated discussions are fine too, but trying to harrass other other fans into making their "favorite" character do something isn't okay. Screaming at someone for not liking their "favorite" character isn't okay. If you can't treat it like a TV show, where we are fans but there's a sort of healthy detachment, you need to take a step back.
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