((Pardon the jumble of words, running on an hour of sleep -.- ))
I don't think your question is off topic at all, Kat.
I enjoyed thinking on it personally. And have to admit your x-men example can fit into a personal example, one you were breifly part of.
Background: At one point in time Askier and Osric and Kahn'a IC had a falling out that left him literally stabbing Kahn'a, who at the time had really been one of Askier's few friends. This conflict was delightful, honestly we had fun, but I honestly could feel myself almost pushing too much with the version Askier I was currently portaying.
Now certainly there wasn't a point where I got my feelings hurt because I know Osric and Kahn'a ooc well enough but it escalated to the point where I needed to remove Askier for IC reasons, and also to prevent his anger from become the all consuming and focal point of the Red Wings rp events by his volitile actions and had him leave for a time and use the distance as a sort of releif valve to make Askier more of a background rp than a focal point.
Point of the above story is that, indeed it does happen, because we really are just side characters in another's story save our own, and we need to remember that.
If we try to be the main hero in every story, eventually we gonna get our feelings stepped on and there are some people who rp that don't understand that because they are either to new to rp, or simply too consumed with themselves because they put to much of themselves into their character by accident because, in the end, the characters we made are a part of us because they are totally our creation.
Thats why some people slip by accident, especially when they first start rping, because people often put parts of themselves into their character. I am even guilty of it. I put too much of me into Askier when I first made him and was brand new to rp. That's why, in my mind, I think Jin'li is the better of my two created characters because with Askier, half the time I'm just responding as I would, while with Jin'li, I am so far out of my comfort zone with normal behaviour I feel lost. I feel as if I am truly an author creating something alien to myself. And that's how it should be to avoid ooc/ic bled.
The other thing people have to be careful with, and I see this alot, is the mindset that says: "Oh this isn't me, its my character". ERP is a feild I've seen this with alot and I have a conflict over it to a certain degree when its hand waved casually. People say its just for the character but, YOU put the character into that situation. You are not an actor reading lines, you WROTE the character crawling into bed and no matter how much you try to be objective, it is something intimate, even to that character and when you engage in that level of intimacy by choice, whether in character or not, there is going to be a certain bond there mentally that is going to be all to easy for someone to misinterpret. Even if both people agree OOC that this is only in character and not between them, the bleed is VERY possible. I've seen it before. An in character romance bleed over even though both parties knew it was IC and not ooc.
But, and here's a little twist that I'm going to toss out there for contemplation:
Is OOC/IC necesacrily a bad thing? If a legitimate relationship between two people forms based on the actions of their characters, do we still have a negative conotation to it? Because, normally the impression of bleed is negative but does it have to be?
If the above question is to de-railing, I can remove it but the opinions here were very good and was interested.
I don't think your question is off topic at all, Kat.
I enjoyed thinking on it personally. And have to admit your x-men example can fit into a personal example, one you were breifly part of.
Background: At one point in time Askier and Osric and Kahn'a IC had a falling out that left him literally stabbing Kahn'a, who at the time had really been one of Askier's few friends. This conflict was delightful, honestly we had fun, but I honestly could feel myself almost pushing too much with the version Askier I was currently portaying.
Now certainly there wasn't a point where I got my feelings hurt because I know Osric and Kahn'a ooc well enough but it escalated to the point where I needed to remove Askier for IC reasons, and also to prevent his anger from become the all consuming and focal point of the Red Wings rp events by his volitile actions and had him leave for a time and use the distance as a sort of releif valve to make Askier more of a background rp than a focal point.
Point of the above story is that, indeed it does happen, because we really are just side characters in another's story save our own, and we need to remember that.
If we try to be the main hero in every story, eventually we gonna get our feelings stepped on and there are some people who rp that don't understand that because they are either to new to rp, or simply too consumed with themselves because they put to much of themselves into their character by accident because, in the end, the characters we made are a part of us because they are totally our creation.
Thats why some people slip by accident, especially when they first start rping, because people often put parts of themselves into their character. I am even guilty of it. I put too much of me into Askier when I first made him and was brand new to rp. That's why, in my mind, I think Jin'li is the better of my two created characters because with Askier, half the time I'm just responding as I would, while with Jin'li, I am so far out of my comfort zone with normal behaviour I feel lost. I feel as if I am truly an author creating something alien to myself. And that's how it should be to avoid ooc/ic bled.
The other thing people have to be careful with, and I see this alot, is the mindset that says: "Oh this isn't me, its my character". ERP is a feild I've seen this with alot and I have a conflict over it to a certain degree when its hand waved casually. People say its just for the character but, YOU put the character into that situation. You are not an actor reading lines, you WROTE the character crawling into bed and no matter how much you try to be objective, it is something intimate, even to that character and when you engage in that level of intimacy by choice, whether in character or not, there is going to be a certain bond there mentally that is going to be all to easy for someone to misinterpret. Even if both people agree OOC that this is only in character and not between them, the bleed is VERY possible. I've seen it before. An in character romance bleed over even though both parties knew it was IC and not ooc.
But, and here's a little twist that I'm going to toss out there for contemplation:
Is OOC/IC necesacrily a bad thing? If a legitimate relationship between two people forms based on the actions of their characters, do we still have a negative conotation to it? Because, normally the impression of bleed is negative but does it have to be?
If the above question is to de-railing, I can remove it but the opinions here were very good and was interested.
