There's a consistent theme I see brought up here, and I think it needs to be addressed outright so we can hopefully move on from it.
"Cliques are only natural, it's pointless to try to banish them"
This sentiment is really not the point of this thread. If that's the message you're taking from all of this, that was not my intent.
Cliques and friend-groups are obviously going to exist forever and nobody is trying to shut down groups of friends hanging out and preferring each other's company. That's crazy -- seriously, seriously crazy. Totally not what's going on here.
The request here is that in as much as I'm trying my best to be an active, communicative, and interesting roleplayer, there has to be some effort made on behalf of both sides to make it work. All the PMs and friendliness and understanding in the world doesn't make a difference if you can't get those who are pre-established to un-tunnel-vision a bit more. That's really it! You can keep your groups, you can keep preferring people you know and all that. I mean, I can't FORCE you to -- people who have robust connections and all that really don't have anything to lose if they don't feel like being a bit more inclusive, but I'm saying that from the perspective of someone still working to get their foot in the door...might be kinda nice, you know?
I'm not new to the game, nor am I new to RPing -- but I think Graeham hit it on the head that it's been some culture shock coming from the RP that I'm used to to a server of this size with this many pre-established groups and all that. I think Presidio also makes a good point in that I've seen a lot of people taking a dump on the Quicksand in the same hand that it's also trotted out as being one of the most active places to get RP for newbies. Just some food for thought.
"Cliques are only natural, it's pointless to try to banish them"
This sentiment is really not the point of this thread. If that's the message you're taking from all of this, that was not my intent.
Cliques and friend-groups are obviously going to exist forever and nobody is trying to shut down groups of friends hanging out and preferring each other's company. That's crazy -- seriously, seriously crazy. Totally not what's going on here.
The request here is that in as much as I'm trying my best to be an active, communicative, and interesting roleplayer, there has to be some effort made on behalf of both sides to make it work. All the PMs and friendliness and understanding in the world doesn't make a difference if you can't get those who are pre-established to un-tunnel-vision a bit more. That's really it! You can keep your groups, you can keep preferring people you know and all that. I mean, I can't FORCE you to -- people who have robust connections and all that really don't have anything to lose if they don't feel like being a bit more inclusive, but I'm saying that from the perspective of someone still working to get their foot in the door...might be kinda nice, you know?
I'm not new to the game, nor am I new to RPing -- but I think Graeham hit it on the head that it's been some culture shock coming from the RP that I'm used to to a server of this size with this many pre-established groups and all that. I think Presidio also makes a good point in that I've seen a lot of people taking a dump on the Quicksand in the same hand that it's also trotted out as being one of the most active places to get RP for newbies. Just some food for thought.
