Sorry Aya. I did some editing to hopefully make it less objectionable. I know you have good intent, and you're also very welcoming to new people and you frequent the Quicksand a lot. I know if you're offended by that, what I said needs some refinement. You are definitely not part of the problem, you're part of the solution. I wish more people were like you.
What I am trying to explain is that this thread is really disheartening to read from the perspective of someone who is trying to fit in and get involved. Knowing why you were ignored when you tried to RP doesn't mean you weren't ignored and having heaps of advice put on you just makes you feel even more responsible for seeing to it that you are included. Let's say the advice given to that person still doesn't work... What then? They will probably quit. And it won't work if any of this phenomenon is caused by the structure of the community (which is something that people don't seem to want to address).
An inclusive community takes steps to include people, it does not educate people on how to best be included first.
I don't think the veterans here realize how hard it is to get established in FFXIV RP. For example, people suggested joining open RP... Open RP has a waitlist. It will be days before you're even invited.
People have mentioned that they see these kinds of threads a lot. That means there is a consistent problem here. I want to be part of its solution. I want to have a discussion about how we can make a more inclusive community. And that includes changing my own bad habits if I need to (and I'm sure there are some things I do that aren't very noob friendly).
What I am trying to explain is that this thread is really disheartening to read from the perspective of someone who is trying to fit in and get involved. Knowing why you were ignored when you tried to RP doesn't mean you weren't ignored and having heaps of advice put on you just makes you feel even more responsible for seeing to it that you are included. Let's say the advice given to that person still doesn't work... What then? They will probably quit. And it won't work if any of this phenomenon is caused by the structure of the community (which is something that people don't seem to want to address).
An inclusive community takes steps to include people, it does not educate people on how to best be included first.
I don't think the veterans here realize how hard it is to get established in FFXIV RP. For example, people suggested joining open RP... Open RP has a waitlist. It will be days before you're even invited.
People have mentioned that they see these kinds of threads a lot. That means there is a consistent problem here. I want to be part of its solution. I want to have a discussion about how we can make a more inclusive community. And that includes changing my own bad habits if I need to (and I'm sure there are some things I do that aren't very noob friendly).
