(02-23-2015, 09:18 AM)Kage Wrote:This. This 100%.(02-23-2015, 09:08 AM)Nako Wrote:That's exactly what I mean.(02-23-2015, 08:35 AM)Kage Wrote:when I say no one says anything, I do of course mean apart from the person/people I am debating with.(02-23-2015, 08:28 AM)Nako Wrote: That said, if I am debating something in a LS, if no one says anything, then I will assume they either don't have an opinion on the matter, or simply don't care, not that they find it uncomfortable.see that silence? It's  because the overriding negativity (if there is such as is the case with most topics that start to become heated are) is the big fat pink elephant in the room.
bottom line! if you feel uncomfortable about something, speak up, otherwise people don't have a clue. We are not mind readers.
I see far more people entirely leave Linkshells or brood upon the negativity and -then- leave Linkshells because of a small group of peoples' general attitudes over arguments that start to overwhelm Linkshells (negativity, not knowing when to stop, things get heated, etc). Sometimes it's because people who are not part of the debate do speak up and no one listens or it's because they're typically non-confrontational people so when put on the spot to do something about it people would rather mouse away ("I don't want to be the one to deal with this drama llama").
And these people usually tend to be the more level-headed people.
You start to get people sending /tells about how negative it's becoming etc than to have the big fat fucking elephant get talked about.
