(03-27-2015, 10:56 AM)Aya Wrote: But you're all missing the point: we're offering our very best advice, based upon our own experience, the experience of others we know, and a basic understanding of social interaction.
I don't want to keep circling here and make it look like we're sucking each other off, but when someone who is perceived to be popular says "This is how I made friends" you should probably at least listen if you're also trying to also make friends.
Roleplay is social interaction. If your character concept, at a base level, avoids or shirks social interaction (The grumbling merc in the bar, the super-shy new adventurer, the hard-to-understand tribal person, the non-posting non-speaking wall fixture) you are going to have a bad time when trying to meet people. Roleplaying requires both parties to invest their time and effort into one another. It is not fun to approach someone only to have them tell you to get lost because that's "how my character would react."
Characters like that don't make friends.
No one wants to waste their time. We all pay to play this game, and we all have limited amounts of free time to invest in not playing the game to roleplay in it instead. If someone spends their time talking to someone who is not receptive, it shouldn't be any surprise that they do not waste their time again. The best thing anyone can do to meet new people is open themselves up to meeting new people. Saying "I want people to pursue me and draw me out of my shell" is asking for someone else to invest a disproportionate amount of their time, energy and willpower into making you more comfortable. It's selfish, and it's only fun for one person. Don't do it.
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