(03-27-2015, 12:41 PM)ArmachiA Wrote: It depends on how much they've tried. If they've gone and done it and it failed, really. Seeing "You need to have confidence and do it!" while good advice, can wear someone down after awhile if it isn't exactly working for THEM. What works for some people, doesn't always work for others, is the thing. Confidence falters.And who here doesn't have sympathy? Isn't that why we're posting in this thread? If we didn't why would we be taking this time?Â
I'm not saying new people try really hard and fail all the time, but I have a lot of sympathy for people trying to break into this community - especially now, I did it when the game launched, I couldn't imagine doing it now - and I've seen a lot of people leave frustrated and wondering if there was a way to help.
And really, I am sorry, but the only other advice I can offer is, "if at first you don't succeed, try try again." Its not just about trying, its about persistence, and about knowing that there are people out there who will want to meet you, even if you have trouble finding them. I'm someone who has gone out of my way, time and time again, to try to welcome new people, to make them feel comfortable, and to set them up with connections as best I can. I consider it a goal of mine to try to hook people up, and to encourage interaction and friend-making. And despite this all, I can tell you very certainly that the bottom line doesn't change. That even when you're "established", that even when you're "popular", finding RP is about interjecting yourself into new situations, and broaching social interaction. Its never about sitting and waiting for something to fall into your lap.
I really am entirely at a loss as to what you want. What sort of silver platter you're imagining that can be offered up as a replacement for being active and pro-active in the search for RP. I don't know what it is that's left you feeling that good, earnest encouragement is not only insufficient, but a signal of being unsympathetic.
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