(03-28-2015, 07:11 AM)ArmachiA Wrote: Right, I don't expect personal shyness to fall on the community (Hence why I'm against complete hand holding [obviously some hand holding is okay]) but was me actually asking for myself. I want to help shy people, since I'm not shy myself, and want to know from shy people how I can be a little more open and understanding without having to completely be in their face all the time.
Approach them slowly. Toss some bait out. Don't make any sudden movements. You'll scare them away.
Um, well. As others have said, just being friendly and approachable goes a long way. Being asked a question or having a way into the conversation helps me a lot personally, because if someone talks to me I literally freeze like an animal and my mind goes blank.
If people go that extra mile as Berrod and Domri are doing, by reaching out more than just a 'hello', well that's completely awesome, because it helps break the ice completely. In Berrod's case, there is no escape. Perfect. But that is going the extra step, which I do not expect people to do because it's my problem, not theirs.
To be honest though my shyness has developed into something a bit more severe, so I might be way off the mark, but I hope it helps a bit any way.
