(03-28-2015, 02:47 PM)Tiergan Wrote: However, if we do talk about that, we need to be wording it in a way that doesn't immediately make 80% of the established community members squint at their computers going "Wait. Who's he talking about? Did I accidentally piss someone off recently? Is he talking about me? Have I even MET this person in game?" I don't know if this will be seen as policing tone, but it makes it really stressful to have these conversations if you have no idea whether the other person actually genuinely holding out a hand and trying to have an earnest dialogue with you about how to improve things or if they're making thinly veiled jabs at you for reasons you don't really understand.]
As one of the people who assumed I was being alluded to, I don't think this is a bad thing. The call for introspection should always be welcomed, more so in the face of heated discussion and debate. I'm aware of my reputation for being a jerk so I don't mind when being called on it.
If someone says something and you think it might be geared towards you, reread the discussion and see if you might have actually been acting like an asshole. Sometimes it turns out you are! And sometimes it is just overly-sensitive people getting their wittle feewings hurt and so they snipe back. The important part is being aware that sometimes, no matter how right or true or measured a response can be, there's always a chance of it also being a dick thing to say to someone. Double true if the topic is something people are passionate about.
Assess, reconsider and move on.
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