(03-31-2015, 07:28 AM)Warren Castille Wrote:(03-31-2015, 01:24 AM)Zaheela Wrote: I was just inquiring because some people may find it easier to try and break in with at least some OOC interactions, which are less intimidating then RPing/Preforming. But everyone is different, and there are different things and methods that work for different people.
Find people you think would be cool to talk to and PM them out of the blue. Comment on their forum posts, ask them about storylines, tell them you think they'd be cool to chat with. Vast majority of the folks here are actually very nice from what I've found.
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When I was starting back up in Feb last year, the very first thing I did was hit up the wiki and search out characters I thought were cool or interesting. I would check the activity of the player and then pm them. Most of the time things would fall through, but I wound up netting myself a few people I rped with regularly -- and most of those were people who rarely (if ever) posted on the forums here.
The rudest I ever got was people standing me up and then not replying; I think you'll find here that people will go out of their way to avoid being outright rude to you, though you will likely get your share of 'no's, people standing you up, or your rp style just not jiving with someone else's rp style.
You do gotta make some effort, though. People cannot yet read minds, and even if it's just posting in the making connections forum or pming someone, you gotta put yourself out there and followup. RP is a social beast.
... and I say that as someone who has had social anxiety issues (I can rant for hours about the rampant sexism amongst the younger set at the only really weightlifting focused gym in town, and how idiotic the machismo is, and how I won't go anymore because of how shitty it makes me feel -- so I get the being shy and not wanting to put yourself out there, but at a certain point you do have to make that choice of whether you will or won't).
edit - and I also want to point out, when I came back there was no making connections forum. So, you know, it was very easy to think that no one wanted to rp with me and I had to convince them that I was worth rping with. Every time I sent a pm (and I sent a lot) I'd have that feeling of 'what if they tell me I suck?' . . . but no one did. I'm talking, man, the people I sent pms to didn't know me at all, didn't know how I rped, and so on. Yet out of every batch a few would be willing to set something up with me.
When I saw some people saying they didn't have anyone to rp with, I would pm them and offer myself up on a silver platter. BOOM instarp. It wasn't always easy and it didn't always work out, but I made some great rp buddies that way.
