Don't retcon if you can get away with it. It's messy and complicated - especially the longer you've rped with someone. The best thing to do is find a reason ICly to cut ties and use it as part of your characters past. Though it seems kind of annoying now, looking back you'll be happier you didn't touch any of the organic stuff that did happen.
First, have you tried talking to them? I mean, really talking. "I don't like your behavior OOC so we need to talk about it or I can't RP with you anymore." type stuff? If you haven't, then DO SO. People don't have conversations they need to have (That could honestly fix EVERYTHING) because they're afraid of upsetting someone, but it's okay if they get upset. They're going to be upset, you're accusing them of something and they are going to see you taking away rp as punishment for the accusation. That's fine. Let them get upset because eventually - if they actually WANT to fix something - they will calm down and you can talk about it. It's better that they know then if you're just leaving them high and dry with no explanation. Try to fix it first.
And hey if they go "Well eff you buddy!" and never calm down, then you know they weren't really worth it in the first place.
These talks can be very long or very short - it really depends on the nature of the person. Take all the time you need to take.
Second, have you tried talking to them but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere? They dismiss you, call you crazy, laugh or whatever? If you and your friend have talked to these people and it's doing nothing, then it's perfectly okay to cut ties. It's only more stress for you to TRY and if they dismiss your concerns or just aren't listening or making any effort to try - then they are really only doing it to themselves.
In public? Generally, regardless of where I am in RP, I try to be civil to everyone. If I run into someone I've had drama with in the past out rping, I'll still rp with them because Armi isn't really me and try not to ooc bleed at all. It's generally been fine since both of us are adults and can act like adults. HOWEVER, if they aren't acting like an adult and harassing you OOC, just blacklist them and ignore them. That isn't cool and is taking it a step too far. You are under no obligation to treat them as a rational human being if they refuse to act like one.
First, have you tried talking to them? I mean, really talking. "I don't like your behavior OOC so we need to talk about it or I can't RP with you anymore." type stuff? If you haven't, then DO SO. People don't have conversations they need to have (That could honestly fix EVERYTHING) because they're afraid of upsetting someone, but it's okay if they get upset. They're going to be upset, you're accusing them of something and they are going to see you taking away rp as punishment for the accusation. That's fine. Let them get upset because eventually - if they actually WANT to fix something - they will calm down and you can talk about it. It's better that they know then if you're just leaving them high and dry with no explanation. Try to fix it first.
And hey if they go "Well eff you buddy!" and never calm down, then you know they weren't really worth it in the first place.
These talks can be very long or very short - it really depends on the nature of the person. Take all the time you need to take.
Second, have you tried talking to them but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere? They dismiss you, call you crazy, laugh or whatever? If you and your friend have talked to these people and it's doing nothing, then it's perfectly okay to cut ties. It's only more stress for you to TRY and if they dismiss your concerns or just aren't listening or making any effort to try - then they are really only doing it to themselves.
In public? Generally, regardless of where I am in RP, I try to be civil to everyone. If I run into someone I've had drama with in the past out rping, I'll still rp with them because Armi isn't really me and try not to ooc bleed at all. It's generally been fine since both of us are adults and can act like adults. HOWEVER, if they aren't acting like an adult and harassing you OOC, just blacklist them and ignore them. That isn't cool and is taking it a step too far. You are under no obligation to treat them as a rational human being if they refuse to act like one.
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