I have people I've had to cut ties with ICly because of OOC behavior, and it usually ends the same way. Â Our characters either drift apart, or it ends up being an outright betrayal, depending on the way things in the RP have gone prior to the OOC split. Â
My character has had some rough times because of that, everything from outright betrayal by people who claimed to love her very deeply, to a very sad parting of the ways before she later found out that the person who had parted with her had actually betrayed her, and she had to find out second hand that it had happened. Â
In another case, my characters wife just up and left him after the player and I had a massive OOC spat. Â Made for interesting, but head-screwy RP. Â I think it all depends on the situation. Â It also depends on how mature both players can be. Â I've had some who, while the player and I don't get along OOCly at all, the IC aspect is maintained because we keep firm distance. Â Just because I hate the way someone acts, doesn't mean their character and mine split. Â
There are a lot of factors, and I don't think any one blanket statement will do, but when someone is actively breaking the ToS, I do agree with others: cut your losses and try to find something ICly that will leave your character not too wrecked. Â I don't retcon anything, ever, even if it kind of sucks for my 'toon (and conversely, for me as well), but that's just personal choice.
My character has had some rough times because of that, everything from outright betrayal by people who claimed to love her very deeply, to a very sad parting of the ways before she later found out that the person who had parted with her had actually betrayed her, and she had to find out second hand that it had happened. Â
In another case, my characters wife just up and left him after the player and I had a massive OOC spat. Â Made for interesting, but head-screwy RP. Â I think it all depends on the situation. Â It also depends on how mature both players can be. Â I've had some who, while the player and I don't get along OOCly at all, the IC aspect is maintained because we keep firm distance. Â Just because I hate the way someone acts, doesn't mean their character and mine split. Â
There are a lot of factors, and I don't think any one blanket statement will do, but when someone is actively breaking the ToS, I do agree with others: cut your losses and try to find something ICly that will leave your character not too wrecked. Â I don't retcon anything, ever, even if it kind of sucks for my 'toon (and conversely, for me as well), but that's just personal choice.
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