I know this one hasn't seen replies in a few days, but I thought I'd chime in while the topic is still fresh on my mind on a personal level.
There's a lot of reasons to cut off IC ties. Sometimes characters just don't get along and not in a way that's pleasing for everyone involved. Perhaps RP styles differ, or maybe you're simply concerned with a questionable attitude on the other end.
It's never really a pleasant situation, though, no matter how insignificant the reasons might be, nor does it ever really end well outside of exceedingly rare exceptions.
I recently retconned out a sizable chunk of Vetiver's life. I had reached a point where I just... dreaded signing on to her. The way things had played out were so far from what I had intended, even more so when some of the interactions with others left me uncomfortable on an OOC level. You pile that on top of someone that's already dealing with countless RL struggles and the results are just... disastrous.
I basically panicked in a moment of extreme distress. Dropped a lot of people without warning, reworked months of history just to bring Vetiver back to a clean slate I would be content with. Was it my finest moment? Not in the slightest. It was for the better, sure, but I still feel terribly guilty about it, especially when it nearly cost me a close friend in the process. I don't even know if we'll be able to mend our bond at this point. The situation is that dire.
But what's done is done and sometimes that's all you can do. Roleplay is supposed to be enjoyable; when it ceases to be, it's time to evaluate the reasons why and address them because at the end of the day, one's emotional well-being trumps maintaining toxic or otherwise unhealthy relationships just for the sake of pleasantry.
There's a lot of reasons to cut off IC ties. Sometimes characters just don't get along and not in a way that's pleasing for everyone involved. Perhaps RP styles differ, or maybe you're simply concerned with a questionable attitude on the other end.
It's never really a pleasant situation, though, no matter how insignificant the reasons might be, nor does it ever really end well outside of exceedingly rare exceptions.
I recently retconned out a sizable chunk of Vetiver's life. I had reached a point where I just... dreaded signing on to her. The way things had played out were so far from what I had intended, even more so when some of the interactions with others left me uncomfortable on an OOC level. You pile that on top of someone that's already dealing with countless RL struggles and the results are just... disastrous.
I basically panicked in a moment of extreme distress. Dropped a lot of people without warning, reworked months of history just to bring Vetiver back to a clean slate I would be content with. Was it my finest moment? Not in the slightest. It was for the better, sure, but I still feel terribly guilty about it, especially when it nearly cost me a close friend in the process. I don't even know if we'll be able to mend our bond at this point. The situation is that dire.
But what's done is done and sometimes that's all you can do. Roleplay is supposed to be enjoyable; when it ceases to be, it's time to evaluate the reasons why and address them because at the end of the day, one's emotional well-being trumps maintaining toxic or otherwise unhealthy relationships just for the sake of pleasantry.
