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Tonight I was approached on the subject of ERP. No, not approached FOR ERP, but was being asked about it, legitimately. We had a nice long conversations about the limits in RP, what individual people are comfortable with, and ways to approach the topic. I write smut on commission, so either side of the argument doesn't bother me, and I'm confident enough in my sexuality that I can talk about sex, and various things relating to it, without getting embarrassed. That being said, I know that ERP is a sensitive topic for a lot of people, and many people skirt around adult topics completely, not realizing there are alternatives or good ways to get around it. Let's talk about this for a moment.
Adult themes in roleplay are fine. A'zireena is a semi-polyamorous bisexual Miqo'te, and I've never hidden that before. She is also open to sex with her partners. I OOCly am comfortable writing out the scene, but I always give options. The first and most obvious option, is to simply fade to black. "As A'zireena smiled at her lover, reaching out to caress their side, she purred softly in delight. Tonight was going to be fun." And End. That's it. They have sex, great, moving on.
The second option, which this individual thought was the only option if you got to an adult scene, is of course to write it out. Now, I often get asked, many times "Do you get off on this? Do you get aroused?" And my answer is almost always a firm 'no'. Â I do not engage in this manner in order to get off, I do this RP both for whatever development can be had in there, and so specifics can be established. But this is hardly the idea for everyone.
And the third option is to 'analyze' it. You sit down OOCly and talk about what happens in the bed. Were they rough? Were they not? Would they react if 'x' happens? Do they say anything? And then you take his information and move on after the scene.
Ultimately, however, if you are engaging in romantic/mature themes, communication with your RP partner is ESSENTIAL. Always find what level your partner is comfortable with, and work from their wishes too. But never engage is something you don't desire.
Thank you all for reading, have a wonderful time.
Tonight I was approached on the subject of ERP. No, not approached FOR ERP, but was being asked about it, legitimately. We had a nice long conversations about the limits in RP, what individual people are comfortable with, and ways to approach the topic. I write smut on commission, so either side of the argument doesn't bother me, and I'm confident enough in my sexuality that I can talk about sex, and various things relating to it, without getting embarrassed. That being said, I know that ERP is a sensitive topic for a lot of people, and many people skirt around adult topics completely, not realizing there are alternatives or good ways to get around it. Let's talk about this for a moment.
Adult themes in roleplay are fine. A'zireena is a semi-polyamorous bisexual Miqo'te, and I've never hidden that before. She is also open to sex with her partners. I OOCly am comfortable writing out the scene, but I always give options. The first and most obvious option, is to simply fade to black. "As A'zireena smiled at her lover, reaching out to caress their side, she purred softly in delight. Tonight was going to be fun." And End. That's it. They have sex, great, moving on.
The second option, which this individual thought was the only option if you got to an adult scene, is of course to write it out. Now, I often get asked, many times "Do you get off on this? Do you get aroused?" And my answer is almost always a firm 'no'. Â I do not engage in this manner in order to get off, I do this RP both for whatever development can be had in there, and so specifics can be established. But this is hardly the idea for everyone.
And the third option is to 'analyze' it. You sit down OOCly and talk about what happens in the bed. Were they rough? Were they not? Would they react if 'x' happens? Do they say anything? And then you take his information and move on after the scene.
Ultimately, however, if you are engaging in romantic/mature themes, communication with your RP partner is ESSENTIAL. Always find what level your partner is comfortable with, and work from their wishes too. But never engage is something you don't desire.
Thank you all for reading, have a wonderful time.
