Like a lot of things: What others do outside of interacting with you is not your business to moderate untill it begins to directly intersect with you. Â People bumping uglies is a good example of this given that it inherently involves entangling others, which means it's always going to intersect with someone else's sensibilities just by doing that. Â Always.
And that's fine, assuming you're respectful, communicative, and not a complete asshat.Â
Unfortunately this kind of stuff often attracts predatory assholes, emotionally manipulative creeps, and worse. Â It's one of the reasons I burned the ERP bridge decades ago and didn't look back. Â I've seen it go terrible, terrible places when it goes wrong and, being the anxious, paranoid, eternally unwilling to to anything exciting automated AI that I am, I've kept my RP focused on non-romantic, non-ugly smushing interaction accordingly.
And that's me. Â Avoiding something because I've seen it wreck people.
Which isn't to say: IT can't add to a char, or build a better story. Â Romance exists for a reason people. Â Use it. Â Abuse it. Break it.
Don't be a shitlord with it though. Â Talk with whoever you're wrapping up in this story of yours, or if you get wrapped up in someone else's. Â Talk. Â Fucking talk. Â Understand what's going on, why, and for what reasons. Â Don't crush on people because you're typing words to them, don't mistake attention for romance, don't assume you're entitled to treat someone like a chatline sexbot whenever you're jonesing for a grope.
Nerds are some of the most passionate people in existence. Â They're also often some of the most lonely and as such are the most likely to get manipulated by those passions, needs, wants, and imagined meanings. Â
Communication solves all  a lot of these problems.  It can make the entire Fade to Black concept of this work.  And work well.  Hilariously well.  But not understanding consent or treating an RP partner like a quick ego/id boost dispenser makes you a predator, a prick, and a proper fucklord who probably needs to re-evaluate why they've sidled up to the RP scene.
All RP communities have these issues. Â I've had this talk....so...so many times in my blackened eons as an elder-thing that also happens to RP in groups and communities.
There's always at least One Guy who doesn't listen and abuses others to get that quick, stupid, worthless thrill of using people as disposable things that serve their purposes
Don't be that guy. Â Go have fun. Be safe. Be sane. Â Be Fucking Consensual.
And that's fine, assuming you're respectful, communicative, and not a complete asshat.Â
Unfortunately this kind of stuff often attracts predatory assholes, emotionally manipulative creeps, and worse. Â It's one of the reasons I burned the ERP bridge decades ago and didn't look back. Â I've seen it go terrible, terrible places when it goes wrong and, being the anxious, paranoid, eternally unwilling to to anything exciting automated AI that I am, I've kept my RP focused on non-romantic, non-ugly smushing interaction accordingly.
And that's me. Â Avoiding something because I've seen it wreck people.
Which isn't to say: IT can't add to a char, or build a better story. Â Romance exists for a reason people. Â Use it. Â Abuse it. Break it.
Don't be a shitlord with it though. Â Talk with whoever you're wrapping up in this story of yours, or if you get wrapped up in someone else's. Â Talk. Â Fucking talk. Â Understand what's going on, why, and for what reasons. Â Don't crush on people because you're typing words to them, don't mistake attention for romance, don't assume you're entitled to treat someone like a chatline sexbot whenever you're jonesing for a grope.
Nerds are some of the most passionate people in existence. Â They're also often some of the most lonely and as such are the most likely to get manipulated by those passions, needs, wants, and imagined meanings. Â
Communication solves all  a lot of these problems.  It can make the entire Fade to Black concept of this work.  And work well.  Hilariously well.  But not understanding consent or treating an RP partner like a quick ego/id boost dispenser makes you a predator, a prick, and a proper fucklord who probably needs to re-evaluate why they've sidled up to the RP scene.
All RP communities have these issues. Â I've had this talk....so...so many times in my blackened eons as an elder-thing that also happens to RP in groups and communities.
There's always at least One Guy who doesn't listen and abuses others to get that quick, stupid, worthless thrill of using people as disposable things that serve their purposes
Don't be that guy. Â Go have fun. Be safe. Be sane. Â Be Fucking Consensual.
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