To echo Dasair, to me, it's just about how distinctive people are. If you post something that catches my attention, or post in a way that catches my attention, I'll notice you. And then, when you post, prior experience has taught me that I'll enjoy reading (or, as is sometimes the case, it's something that is provocative in some way, or interesting, or something I can argue with) what you have to say, so I'll read it closely.
People who are distinctive stand out, so people tend to respond directly to them. More and more interaction equals forming connections.
Once those connections are formed -- especially if they're cultivated and the person is actively reaching out -- there's an appearance of someone who is active and surrounded by lots of people and it's happy and magical.
And I think there's a lot to be said about what you do about your reaction to that, and how you temper your reactions and how you observe yourself.
*shrug* After WoW, and a guild I became a leader in, and devoted almost all of my free time to, and burned out really hard on -- I decided I was going to come to FFXIV and be a lone wolf. And that is exactly what I've done. Nearly all of my contacts are ooc-rp; there are very very few who I've told personal stories to, and of those it's because I was actively rping with them and then suddenly stopped because of ooc circumstances (which I later divulged on because of a thread), and I felt I owed them an explanation, because I liked them as people.
I dunno. I'm not a social butterfly. I'm an introvert, and too much social reaction will eventually burn me out. I can be super shy, I'm afraid of rejection -- but to me, you do have to do certain things in certain ways to build (and I use that word very deliberately) what you want to have.
There's utterly no point in me looking at someone who seems to have an effortless time at something and thinking 'why can't it be like that for me?' (especially because what we perceive can so often be dead wrong)
I have to work hard to get what I get. I think most people do.
That's okay.
People who are distinctive stand out, so people tend to respond directly to them. More and more interaction equals forming connections.
Once those connections are formed -- especially if they're cultivated and the person is actively reaching out -- there's an appearance of someone who is active and surrounded by lots of people and it's happy and magical.
And I think there's a lot to be said about what you do about your reaction to that, and how you temper your reactions and how you observe yourself.
*shrug* After WoW, and a guild I became a leader in, and devoted almost all of my free time to, and burned out really hard on -- I decided I was going to come to FFXIV and be a lone wolf. And that is exactly what I've done. Nearly all of my contacts are ooc-rp; there are very very few who I've told personal stories to, and of those it's because I was actively rping with them and then suddenly stopped because of ooc circumstances (which I later divulged on because of a thread), and I felt I owed them an explanation, because I liked them as people.
I dunno. I'm not a social butterfly. I'm an introvert, and too much social reaction will eventually burn me out. I can be super shy, I'm afraid of rejection -- but to me, you do have to do certain things in certain ways to build (and I use that word very deliberately) what you want to have.
There's utterly no point in me looking at someone who seems to have an effortless time at something and thinking 'why can't it be like that for me?' (especially because what we perceive can so often be dead wrong)
I have to work hard to get what I get. I think most people do.
That's okay.
