Okay so I'm going to be pretty open with you right now, but I want you to know that I actually agree that it can be very hard for new RPers to get into RP and have tried, in my own way, to help with that. I'm on your side, despite what I'm going to say, it's just a harsher truth.
This server is MASSIVE. Because there isn't a few official RP servers most RPers have chose to roll on Balmung, this makes FFXIV's RP community one of the largest I've probably ever seen. We're all on one server and we're probably in the thousands (Though still in the minority, as there are about 35,000 total on the server) this makes it's easy for people to get swallowed. Are you invisible? Probably. But this isn't the fault of any sort of clique. It's the fault of how big the community is in the first place. I've said it a few times on here, but I've hardly seen anyone on the RPC actually in game unless they were in my FC at one point. I just met Erik OOC last week in game and me and him have both been playing since launch. It's easy to just... never see anyone from this forum. If there is a group you are specifically looking for, there's a damn good chance you are never going to see them.
Walk-up RP hardly ever produces long lasting connections. You like random and don't like planning ahead you are going to have a REALLY hard time making IC friends. Most people treat the Quicksand, or walk ups in general, as one shot RP to have fun or just look for a date or something. It's harder without actively planning, but if your the sort who likes one shot RP sessions and casual encounters, you won't really have much issues with it. Deeper Roleplay though? That comes with planning. It HAS to, just the way that it works.
Even look at FCs, while Fcs are a great way to meet an RP circle, if you look at the thread about what FC leaders want in a member, most of them said "proactive" because while we can lead a horse to water, we can't make him drink. I can show you where my members RP, I can tell you a bunch of them are rping in the mansion and to go join... but I can't make you join. You have to join on your own. You have to decide "Well there is rp going on, and I know about it and I'm invited, so I'm going to interact." As an FC leader, I can only do so much for you. I can give you the tools, but I CAN'T make you make anything with them. It doesn't matter how many times I say "It's an open invite, anyone can go." if you decide to stand in a corner even when I say that... I can't help you anymore. This of course requires some planning, too. In my FC we get you into the Company ICly, which is a preplanned meeting with Ellion Goto or one of the IC officers, and then we shove you into the fold. We have plots you can join that are planned for the FC, and we have random RP at the house. But it is, in essence, planning. Asking an FC member if they want to RP works much much better than waiting for them to be available.
One of my FC mates is extremely shy.She struggled with RP for a very long time because she would wait for one or two people to be around and try to talk to them. What really works for her is sending /tells and asking to rp ahead of time. That way she can control the number of people around (Too many is over whelming) and she gets some rp time. Planning has a LOT of benefits.
The thing is, we're not trying to be cliquey. I don't think anyone on the server is. For us, we have 70-80 members we can interact with at any given time and RP is rather easy to come by. BUT when a new member makes themselves involved we welcome them with open arms. We do have problems with people feeling like they aren't fitting in, but it's usually in their head. We like new people, we love new people! We however can't work with new people who do not work with us.
And thats the server. I understand you are shy, but you have two things against you here. You're shy and you don't want to ask people to rp in /tells, this is going to make you feel quite invisible.
I have a very large circle of friends in the game, I can find RP pretty much whenever I want, but if someone sends me a PM (hahaha that will never happen ; ;) and wants to RP with me? I schedule it with them! Barring any kind of plotline where my character is gone (Like right now...) I'm always up for meeting new people! I have sent PMs myself asking people to rp, and despite them having their own circle, they've always said yes. We do not know you want to RP with us if you do not tell us.
And that's the crux of the issue.
The thing is Nataru offering her character above is a sort of planning, which you don't really like, which kind of puts us between a rock and a hard place on trying to help you.
This server is MASSIVE. Because there isn't a few official RP servers most RPers have chose to roll on Balmung, this makes FFXIV's RP community one of the largest I've probably ever seen. We're all on one server and we're probably in the thousands (Though still in the minority, as there are about 35,000 total on the server) this makes it's easy for people to get swallowed. Are you invisible? Probably. But this isn't the fault of any sort of clique. It's the fault of how big the community is in the first place. I've said it a few times on here, but I've hardly seen anyone on the RPC actually in game unless they were in my FC at one point. I just met Erik OOC last week in game and me and him have both been playing since launch. It's easy to just... never see anyone from this forum. If there is a group you are specifically looking for, there's a damn good chance you are never going to see them.
Walk-up RP hardly ever produces long lasting connections. You like random and don't like planning ahead you are going to have a REALLY hard time making IC friends. Most people treat the Quicksand, or walk ups in general, as one shot RP to have fun or just look for a date or something. It's harder without actively planning, but if your the sort who likes one shot RP sessions and casual encounters, you won't really have much issues with it. Deeper Roleplay though? That comes with planning. It HAS to, just the way that it works.
Even look at FCs, while Fcs are a great way to meet an RP circle, if you look at the thread about what FC leaders want in a member, most of them said "proactive" because while we can lead a horse to water, we can't make him drink. I can show you where my members RP, I can tell you a bunch of them are rping in the mansion and to go join... but I can't make you join. You have to join on your own. You have to decide "Well there is rp going on, and I know about it and I'm invited, so I'm going to interact." As an FC leader, I can only do so much for you. I can give you the tools, but I CAN'T make you make anything with them. It doesn't matter how many times I say "It's an open invite, anyone can go." if you decide to stand in a corner even when I say that... I can't help you anymore. This of course requires some planning, too. In my FC we get you into the Company ICly, which is a preplanned meeting with Ellion Goto or one of the IC officers, and then we shove you into the fold. We have plots you can join that are planned for the FC, and we have random RP at the house. But it is, in essence, planning. Asking an FC member if they want to RP works much much better than waiting for them to be available.
One of my FC mates is extremely shy.She struggled with RP for a very long time because she would wait for one or two people to be around and try to talk to them. What really works for her is sending /tells and asking to rp ahead of time. That way she can control the number of people around (Too many is over whelming) and she gets some rp time. Planning has a LOT of benefits.
The thing is, we're not trying to be cliquey. I don't think anyone on the server is. For us, we have 70-80 members we can interact with at any given time and RP is rather easy to come by. BUT when a new member makes themselves involved we welcome them with open arms. We do have problems with people feeling like they aren't fitting in, but it's usually in their head. We like new people, we love new people! We however can't work with new people who do not work with us.
And thats the server. I understand you are shy, but you have two things against you here. You're shy and you don't want to ask people to rp in /tells, this is going to make you feel quite invisible.
I have a very large circle of friends in the game, I can find RP pretty much whenever I want, but if someone sends me a PM (hahaha that will never happen ; ;) and wants to RP with me? I schedule it with them! Barring any kind of plotline where my character is gone (Like right now...) I'm always up for meeting new people! I have sent PMs myself asking people to rp, and despite them having their own circle, they've always said yes. We do not know you want to RP with us if you do not tell us.
And that's the crux of the issue.
The thing is Nataru offering her character above is a sort of planning, which you don't really like, which kind of puts us between a rock and a hard place on trying to help you.
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