(05-02-2015, 09:42 AM)Alothia Wrote: I know people like to have their shy characters, but honestly, if you want to RP, you're going to have a hard time with a shy character.
Usually people have shy characters because they can't envision themselves having the OOC courage to play a character that isn't. At least, that's how it was for me for a few characters beforehand.
(My method of, uh, coping is incredibly unhealthy and as such I won't share it here.)
It gives an excuse for the RPer to not feel involved that doesn't attack the issue, that shifts the blame passively on an outside entity (and it's better than saying it's obviously my fault or other people's fault) but it doesn't address the problem. However, expecting that people confront shortcomings that might be far more crippling than they appear for the sake of a video game is asking a bit much of them.
It does suck - both for the person because their own insecurities are preventing them from having fun and for the community because they're losing a potential RPer. When it comes to RPing, I'd rather have a larger pool of people that RP all around me because statistically someone can find their niche easier if there's more RPers than not.
Even then, because I recognize that what he wants out of RP in this game is what I want out of RP in this game, I can only tell him what worked for me - Which was joining a OOC linkshell then saying I'm planning on RPing there. Or looking for that one sentence that meant I could talk, finding it and then onwards to adventure.
I still attended hella tavern nights and other events though. They won't include you if they don't know you - so you'll need to introduce yourself. A good tavern night you can go to is the HoD tavern night on Thursday nights at 9 Eastern - At worst, Faye always welcomes you IC so you can have some measure of interaction, and there's always someone to remind you to put your weapon in the locker, which instantly forces you to acknowledge and interact with them.
