RP is what you put into it. I used to complain about lack of rp, not being included, etc. However, I always sat at home at the FC or just remained silent in Limsa or Ul'dah, wondering why rp wasn't coming to me. Well, that tactic just doesn't work. So I had to adapt, step out of my comfort zone and start trying to speak to strangers at random, getting into good Linkshells, being chatty, and even making a role for my character that forces her to talk to people. I may not be some main character in an epic rp storyline, but my collection of little rp has netted me a lot of good friends and people I could rp with again at any time. Balmung is great, you just need to be willing to put yourself out there a bit to engage with others. 
