(06-24-2015, 09:36 AM)LadyRochester Wrote: I have never encountered a community that so successfully managed to harass and harm people while deluding themselves into thinking they are innocent and doing it for "the better". Harassment is not cool, and regardless of your issues with other players, talking shit and bending the truth to make yourself look better DOES NOT make you a better person. You have a problem? Keep it between you and the player, spreading the fire is not only counter-productive, but it makes you look like shit. This isn't high school.
This. So much this.Â
A few friends of mine from an FC, one that I will not state, has received a lot of slander from the leader because of something small and very much justified. Just because they left under minor disagreement and wishing to join another FC that better suits their wishes does not give you the right to suddenly go passive aggressive and send absolute lies to that FC the poor person wants to join.Â
Talking shit and bending the truth really does not make you look good at all, especially when people find out you're doing that or worse they find out you're flat out lying. I'm no innocent person myself, I've shit talked a few people myself and with pretty good reason. Still doesn't make me any better than them though, even if it's a rare moment for me. The key phrase in all of this would be this:
If you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all.Â
Now why, you ask, did I put that in larger font as well as bold and italic? Because it's a very important phrase that tends to be ignored. Yes I'm a hypocrite for saying it when I just said that I also shit talk, but it is a worthwhile message.
