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(06-24-2015, 02:48 AM)Alaz Wrote: Not 'everyone' is legitimately nice. I'm really and genuinely glad to hear that your experiences have been positive, but not everyone has had the same.
I've been nearly outted by people I trusted (who were not LGBTQA) on purpose and to blackmail me. It took me threatening legal action for it to stop.
I've had a RP partner stop talking to me entirely when they found out.
I've had another RP partner make snide comments about friends of mine (who are out) TOWARDS me that were very offensive, not knowing that I also was in that same predicament, but closeted.Â
I've seen people call my closest friends anything from 'it' to 'he-she' to any other number of very transphobic things, and they'd absolutely refuse to call him by his preferred gender pronouns.Â
All of these things happened on this very server, from people who are or have been on this server. No, not everyone is legitimately nice and some of us now have severe trust issues alongside it. Not everyone is the same, and not everyone will respond to hurtful things the same way. For one person, what they view as water off a duck's back may be a straw that broke the camel's back to another. You may be able to brush it off, but it may send another person into a spiraling depression.
Seems like some people are missing this in through their rose-colored goggles regarding the amazingness of our community.
I'm so so so sorry you had experiences like these. Blackmail? That's beyond the pale.
I'm an ally myself, but I've had so so many LGBT IC encounters that I'd been beginning to think that the LGBT characters (I know very little of players) actually significantly outnumbered the cis. That's not problematic, but it shows how important it is to step back and realize that any given individual's experience is far from reflective of everybody else's.
And dropping another tag for Tenrilaux's new LS.
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