(06-30-2015, 10:31 PM)Natalie Mcbeef Wrote: To Tiergan its a good way for new people to maybe get some ideas of behaviours that might be pushing people away.
Also everyone loves to vent.
What you see as positives are what I see as negatives.
Venting is "fine" until it becomes apparent you're the person who is being vented about. Then it becomes not so fun. Unfortunately there's no big sign that appears over your head when you activate someone's pet peeve. "WARNING, WARNING: You're a purple proser!" For those who are self-conscious, doubtful, shy, or anxious...it's easy to get the suspicion that you may be the one folks are referring to in this thread. That's not really anyone here's problem but there do seem to be a lot of such folks in this community. (In every RP community, actually)
That becomes even worse if people use this thread as a "What not to do in RP" thread. Which it absolutely shouldn't be. This should be seen more as a "Things I personally dislike or don't prefer in my RP" type thread. There is no right or wrong in RP. It's all subjective. Some things like not RPing as a pokemon, not godmodding/metagaming, etc. Â are typically agreed upon by the RP community at large despite their subjective-ness. These have a consensus.
Pet peeves, even if multiple people in here agree on them, do not share a consensus. Folks who really can't be bothered to have pet peeves aren't going to bother posting in here. You don't see the views of people who don't care, only those who do. Therefore it is not a reasonable metric to get an idea of "What do most people like and dislike?" You're only getting one group's opinion here.
For example, I don't care about 'would' usage, or thoughts in emotes, or purple prose. It's my preference. What I like or dislike in my RP is no more 'right' than anyone else's 'preferences.'Â
I'm disappointed that staying out of this thread for a few pages and I come back and already see lots of implications going on that suggest stuff on folks' pet peeves list around here are automatically deigned as 'the wrong way to RP.'
Perhaps I am in the wrong coming in here if I'm not going to post pet peeves, but can we at least accept the idea that no one in here has the authority to define 'right and wrong' + 'good and bad' styles of RP? This thread may have merit as a form of venting, but it has very little use as a guidline on how to RP.
Edit: For some added insight on why I chose to speak out on this:
